UT_longhorn Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Guys.... Can you guys post some positive and uplifting stories about how well you may be doing ... or how well you've been progressing. How long its been for you. No pining or talking about how horrible you feel on this thread please. Only about progress and what you feel like you've learned. What you are looking forward to. What you feel your future holds. Please...I think people need to hears some positive stories.
kitten chick Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I think a lot of the people that came here with problems that have had success and happiness have left the board or at least don't post much anymore.
basscatcher Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I have posted possitive about myself in other threads and also in my own threads. I am stilling doing very well with Mr. L. (Charlie). I have fallen in love with him but still hold myself back so as to not overwhelm him. He is coming around also. He is slowly sharing himself more with me and reaching out to me with affection... He was deeply hurt, disappointed, let down, abused, raked over the coals and taken for a financial ride by his last two X's. All is good with me.. One day at a time. Think before I act or speak. Seek advice to help jog my thoughts in making decisions. Be honest with myself first Keep an open mind Don't have high expectations Be practical and true.
jennifer1983 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Well I think with each break up I see what I can deal with and how strong I can be. Often times I second guess myself but in the aftermath I look back and see that hey that took confidence and power to overcome. I certainly learn what I do and don't want from the next person I am with. Certain traits and characteristics that I never really thought were an issue but then after being with someone who acted in those ways I found out that they really are something I can't deal with. Well my plans for the future are well since I am going thru a fresh breakup to cry A LOT, be angry for a while, talk everybody I know to death about it, and eventually move on with my life. I'm going this evening or sometime tomorrow to get a membership at a local gym and am trying to find at least two nights this week to go out so I won't be stuck home thinking because right now thinking is my worst enemy.
basscatcher Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Well I think with each break up I see what I can deal with and how strong I can be. Often times I second guess myself but in the aftermath I look back and see that hey that took confidence and power to overcome. I certainly learn what I do and don't want from the next person I am with. Certain traits and characteristics that I never really thought were an issue but then after being with someone who acted in those ways I found out that they really are something I can't deal with. Well my plans for the future are well since I am going thru a fresh breakup to cry A LOT, be angry for a while, talk everybody I know to death about it, and eventually move on with my life. I'm going this evening or sometime tomorrow to get a membership at a local gym and am trying to find at least two nights this week to go out so I won't be stuck home thinking because right now thinking is my worst enemy. Jennifer--You are normal and on a possitive road as long as you allow yourself to go through all the stages of grief you're feeling. Its a roller coaster right now but when you jump off that ride with the experience you will head down a better road to learn more and make more informed decisions when the next one comes along..
luvtoto Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 The last couple months, I decided to date a 'nice guy' for a change. Let me tell you...he is awesome!! No one has ever known him to have a girlfriend before, so I consider him my little secret. He's mature. He's got charm, intelligence, sense of humour. Absolutely, NO GAMES! I can't believe he hasn't been snatched up yet. (We are both pushing 40). Just 'cause no mind blowing sparks haven't surfaced yet...doesn't mean they won't surface later (if ya know what I mean). I learned this from LS to not judge a book by it's cover, so to say, take things slow, Get to know someone before jumpin' in the sack , don't rush things..and to respect a man for being a busy guy...don't bash him for it. Also, NC=keep your dignity. 1
jennifer1983 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 luvtoto--That is something I completely forgot...the whole NC thing I agree completely. To anyone who reads this and thinks about calling your ex, don't. You will only feel worse for it in the end because then you will sit around and wonder what would have happened if you didn't call or worse give them the upper hand knowing you are weak and desperate to hear from them. This will only push them away farther. At least if you fight the urge to call you will be able to move on with your life with or without them. padameckla--Thank you for your kind words and it is nice to hear that there are still good ones left.
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I'm positive that divorcing my wife was the right decision and I'm positively happier today because of it.. As far as the rest.. we all have positives stories inside us.. Look inside yourself and the positive story will be born
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