sick of it Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Quick background. Im 23. ive had 1 girlfriend for 5.5 yrs. she was my first and only everything (relationship, kiss, sex...). she broke up with me 8 months ago, moved on rather quickly and it destroyed me. Ive been much better and spent this entire time facing the pain, dealing with it and trying to become me again. now to the subject... Last night i made dinner for a bunch of friends. they all know my situation and have been there for me. i got drunk off some wine and ended up hooking up with a very close friend of mine. nothing serious (nothing below the belt, i stopped it). though it was fun and it felt very good, i dont feel right about it. i feel like i did something wrong. i dont have feelings for this girl and i never thought i would ever do something like that (maybe i didnt...the wine did). but i have this overwhelming feeling of guilt like i cheated on someone. can anyone give some insight?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Are you Catholic? If nothing occurred below the belt, then you didn't "hook up".
Author sick of it Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 i am catholic.....but thats not the issue. ...and if "hooked up" is the wrong term, then ok. however, i still feel very weird about it. this is the only other person ive ever kissed or anything...and though my ex has been with someone since september, the issue lies in that. i cant explain it...and i cant put my finger on it. i dont know why i feel so uneasy about it.
pippen_2k Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 hmmmmm 8 months ago you 2 broke up and you still feel this way? Im guessing you have been in contact with her a fair bit then?
Author sick of it Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 i was led on through the whole summer...culminating in a big trip that we had planned before the break ...where she told me she was interested in someone...last time i saw her was september and last time i spoke to her (or any contact at all) was over a month ago.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 i am catholic.....but thats not the issue. It is. More than you are aware. But really...stop beating up on yourself. The fact of the matter is...you didn't do anything wrong (except for the fact that you made out with someone you don't have any feelings for, and quite possibly might have led on this girl).
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