kjo314 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Guys/Gals, I am taking a girl to a lunch date and I am not exactly sure what it is but she agreed to it so I guess that is a good thing.. We have been friends and kinda know each other... we are not good friends.. I don't know exactly what this is but I guess I will take it from there. What are things we could talk about. Sometimes I freeze up but I would like to know what are some good things to talk about. I thinkg this girl might be a good thing for me. She is different than any other girl I have dated. It is a far shot for me to get beyond this date but you never know.. If you guys have any advice let me know.. I told her "we should get lunch sometime" she said "definitly" I was like "are you free this weekend" she said "no... but I am at 11 everyday" so we set it for tuesday at 11...... We talk every now and then but aren't really good friends... we marched in band together... lol I don't know guys... let me know what you think or any ideas you have.
Candied-Heart Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I guess you could talk about things you know you have in common like the marching band? If I was ever shaky in the FD situation I would always discuss the restaurant/bar/lounge we were in, [ambience-wise] I suppose this worked well with men because they always chose the place and it was a nice compliment to them and got the conversation onto everything.. like people he'd been there with, that it's near certain places he frequents, that the furniture is like that of the stuff at his place etc. You know all silly talk but it takes away the painful silence and you get to know little things about him you wouldn't ask. I'd also ask whether he had eaten there before and if so what some good menu choices were, actually I still do that w/ my BF. There's the cliche FD topics like the current events of your country or area, your employment history or where you work if you didn't meet through your job, your hobbys. Boring but It's pretty easy once you get to thinking. Just don't construct a rigid mental list of things to discuss or you'll come off too .. weird .. almost rehearsed. Just follow on from different topic changes and have a good time. Ask her things you want to know about her, providing they're not fifth date material You want to appear relaxed but interested, not cold. You want to laugh at her silly jokes and refill her drinks and ask her how her meal is etc. Be suave Good Luck!
Author kjo314 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 What is good to do in a situation like this... I am so nervous for some reason...
Lucasarts Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 hmm well a good way to start is asking if she's ever eaten in the place that you guys chose to meet... then ask her about her week so far, what she did on the weekend and all that... then you go and talk about your week and hopefully you did something somewhat worthwhile and worth talking about... From there its all about being able to connect topics to new topics. She should also be of some help and mention things about what you might say and that would lead to a different area of conversation which may lead you to jump in and mention something about what she was talking about...and so on... good questions to ask are what music she likes, and you could burn her a cd or something? What movies are interesting to her? and why? what dont appeal to her and why? What her favorite hobby is...why she joined the marching band, did she like the marching band? (here is where an embarrassing story about band can be inputted, for humor and to lighten the mood)...and the list goes on really. I think you're over exaggerating this, its not a date, you're simply hanging out with a friend right now nothing more. If there is something there, then yes you can call the next "meeting" a date. But by then you both should be comfortable enough to actually talk like human beings.
witabix Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Don't stress out about it...... Talk about the first thing that comes into your head. Why are oranges called oranges? When bananas are not called yellows? What did your dad do for a living? Mine was a diesel fitter in a ladies clothes shop, yea he used to pick out clothes and say dee's l fit 'er! You don't have to have a serious convo, have fun, make her laugh, and have fun yourself too, oh and don't poke fun at her. Relax you'll be fine.
Lucasarts Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 actually poking fun of her in a light way helps break any tension and i find it to be a good way to see if the girl can handle herself and take a good joke, and maybe she can throw one back at me. dont overdo it tho, cause it tends to get annoying and not funny anymore
Author kjo314 Posted January 31, 2006 Author Posted January 31, 2006 How do you poke fun?... is this the definition of flirting??
hyakku Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 One of them, and it works damn good. Poking fun and playing with each other shows that you: A. Have a sense of humor B. Aren't to afraid to say anything that might remotely evoke an emotion other than BOREDOM. Have fun, talk about fun topics, joke around playfully with each other, the main focus is to have FUN not to talk about politics and the war in Iraq. And PLEASE, do not talk about her past relationships if she brings it up, move away from that, its not good talking about others past relationships.
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