jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I feel so conflicted. While I miss him terribly and long for him, I am so angry at him for the way he ended things and for believing in anything he ever said to me. All the "I love you"s and "We'll get through this together"....things he said just days before dumping me on the phone while I was sick. I have such anger for feeling like he made me a fool. How can I resolve these conflicting emotions.
fooled Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Jen, you're going to be angry. You have a right to be angry! I'm struggling with the same thing. I don't think there is any way to resolve those feelings - or why you're mad and 5 minutes later miss the h*ll out of him! Let 'er rip until you're tired of being angry.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 At least you appear to be better at this no contact thing than I am. I can't seem to go one effing day without sending him some angry email to tell him what an a$$ he is. I know I'm just venting, but he probably thinks I'm some psycho. I'm not...I'm just a very hurt woman in a helluva lot of pain.
Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 jen_jen, stop emailing him. Stop. Walk away from this with dignity and don't give him any reasons to think he did the right thing by leaving. If you do want him to come back, then you're ruining all chances of that by contacting him. Silence is the best weapon and best revenge.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 So I can let him off easy? I know he's not coming back, and I'd be deluding myself if I allow myself to think there's any chance otherwise.
fooled Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I'm not letting my scum of an ex get any satisfaction by knowing that I'm still thinking about her. It would just boost her ego.
heartnsoul Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I know you're hurting but Lonestar and fooled are right. You may be making the break easier on him by showing him this side of you. If he wronged you...don't stoop to his level. Silence is violence!
notmakingsense Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I have often thought of writing my ex a note letting her have it for the way she treated me at the end. Her idea of a break-up was to simply stop contacting me. Sure, I sort-of knew that things were waning, but to simply stop returning calls? The week before our anniversary? The inability to have that face-to-face discussion with her, expressing my hurt and anger towards her treatment of me has served to really slow my progress in getting over things -- however, I know by reading about people's experiences here that writing her a note that rakes her over the coals would (a) not get a response, and (b) as a result -- not really help me any. Think about the satisfaction (or lack thereof) you get from writing those notes. If they aren't giving you any satisfaction, then you might as well stop because they are propbably diminishing your stature in his eyes anyway
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