sara123 Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I have been dating this guy for a few months now. I never had a problem with the age before but then I began thinking about the future. I don't want kids till i'm in my 30's. By then he is going to be like 50. His father died of cancer when he was 49, so i'm thinking what if he does the same. That is the first problem. Next is we always got along before. Now all of a sudden he complains about everything I do. I don't pay enough attention to him, I would rather hang out with my friends( which is not true i am usually with him everyday) I don't really love him, I dont like to have sex with him often enough...all of a sudden he just complains about everything and we almost broke up the other day over it. Next problem is there is this other guy, who is actually my age, a friend of the family, goes to school like me and just seems like we would have a lot more in common. I always liked him but lately we started hanging out more often and he has told me that he thinks i should break up with my bf and give him a chance. I told my boyfriend we can give it one more try but that he can't control me and tell me what to do. I had a lot of my stuff at his place and i took it all home and told him that i do need some space and that i am going to sleep at home more often and hang out with my friends and do what i want, not always what he wants. If i were to break up with him i don't know how he would handle it. THat is one of my main concerns. I broke up with him once in the summer and he didn't eat, didn't go out and if he did go out he was so angry he just started fights with other people, He cried a lot and lost 35 pounds... He is really a great guy, and i know that he loves me and would never leave me so i think i owe it to him to try to work things out but then i think to myself, what if i am throwing away this other guy who could make me really happy. He has said he is willing to wait a bit for me but he won't wait forever. I just don't know if i am doing the right thing. I feel as though if i am agreeing to try to work things out with my bf then i should not be in contact with the other guy but at the same time i don't want to stop talking to guy number 2...it is just so confusing. Oh and my family are not help, my mom thinks he's the greatest guy in the world and my brother thinks he's a petofile...
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 You dont OWE anybody a relationship or anything else.If your not happy, leave.You sound as if your not getting what you desire out of this relationship.Im in a relationship with a much older man, Im 26 he'll be 42 next month. Its not an older guy thing to be more controlling, its just the type of guy your guy is. If you think you'd be happier doing something else , do it 1
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