amsterdamgirl Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Hi everyone, Ive been reading this amazing forum for a while now, and decided to sign up. Ive multiple problems... I am with my boyfriend now for 3 months. We met on vacation, but on this holiday I ended up kissing his friend who he was on holiday with, and my current boyfriend met another woman as wel. After the holidays when we were back home, my bf and I stated dating. Last weekend I met his friends, family etc. as it was his birthday. They are a very close group of about 16 people, so I was kinda shy about going there, being the new girl etc. Anyway, I went. I had fun, but I saw enough people looking at me, pointing, talking, etc etc. I might be paranoid but it was kinda weird. The guy I kissed on holiday was there as wel, and I think his friends might think Im some kinda slut or something. His female best friend even came up to me and said: ( i never met her before) I dont like you. (first thing she said). I guess you might not see my problem, but I was kinda uncomfortable with his friends, because of all of this. I dont know what to do about it... Do you think it was just the first time meeting them that was akward, or do you think they'll continue to act like this around me? They even played the song "nasty girl" (D. Child) and 3 of the girls there were looking at me, laughing, pointing, etc. Not nice. Should I ask my bf what his friends thought of me? He'll probably wont even tell me if they all thought I was a b.i.t.c.h. now would he? Also, my bf thinks I have loads of female friends.... which I dont. He keeps saying he wants to meet them, and I just dont know what to tell him. Do I tell him: I have nobody (and sound pathetic)? He thinks Ive girls to go out with, shopping etc, but thruth is, nope I dont. Im scarred to tell him this, as he is very outgoing, has loads of friends, and Im the quiet girl. Im just feeling sad at the moment. I love him, he loves me, were great together and at the party plenty people came up to me saying my bf was so into me, and likes me so much, and doesnt stop talking about me etc. Mabye its just PMS.. or would you feel weird as wel?? Thanks for reading...
phyrespryte Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I'm confused here. So you kissed his friend before you started dating him? From your post it sounds like it was mostly females being mean to you. And I think the female best friend is jealous of you. Maybe the 3 other girls could be friends of the fbf and just sharing her hate. At least that's how it looks so far. Other than that sounds like the people at the party were pretty nice to you. I mean they came up to you and told you nice things. I don't think it could hurt if you ask your b/f what his friends thought. You could let him know that you don't think that you made a good impression. And maybe he'll be able to help you get more comfortable with his friends.
Lucasarts Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 well just tell him the truth about who you really are, why lie to yourself and to him? if he really is into you then he doesnt care about you not having that many friends. Plus he should understand your shyness and your reasons as to why you dont have that many friends. Plus with the chicks, i think it just is jealousy and her being a b*tch. Best friends like to stick up for their friends and if its of the opposite sex they can be quite ruthless you know? anyways even if the friends opinion mattered, its apparent hes overlooked your actions/trangressions and still likes you for who you are. Hes a forgiviing popular type that many girls dream about ahr harharharharhar sorry but yeah thats my 2 cents
UnderWorld Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 probably his friend was kidding...and its probably all in ur head once he knows what u did or act like soemthings wrong u make urself look guilty. Just be u there not pointing at u..my ex was the same way w/ oh i wanna meet ur friends i had few and later had more...just let him know there busy...aand once u get good friends ease them
Author amsterdamgirl Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 youre right, it was mostly the females who were being kinda weird towards me. The guys were all real friendly, and I was amazed at myself that I was chatting away to them (as am I really shy...) I asked him what his friends thought, but he has not yet emailed me back. Thanks so much for your advice, I have no friends to whom I can talk about these kinda things so Im glad some of you gave me your insights. thanks!
BlahBlahQueen Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I saw enough people looking at me, pointing, talking, etc etc... His female best friend even came up to me and said: ( i never met her before) I dont like you. (first thing she said)... They even played the song "nasty girl" (D. Child) and 3 of the girls there were looking at me, laughing, pointing, etc. I know you don't have the same personality as me, but I'm just wondering why you didn't go up to those b1tches and ask them what the hell their problem was, or just walk up to them and make some vile remark about their idiocy. Chick, you can't come off as weak in the social world, especially with b1tchy little girls... it just gives all those hyenas an opening to pounce on you! If someone's looking at me funny, I will not hesitate to bare my teeth. Result? No one f***s with me in front of my face - ever. You need to command respect.
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