wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Why is it a guy can show up knowing he's going to see a certain girl, knowing he's gonna get some, knowing he likes her, fools around with her, then doesn't call all week????? Busy or not, it doesn't take that long to pick up a phone and say hi. Guys, does this mean you're not into the girl and just looking for some ass?????? (no, the guy I'm seeing is NOT married, or even in a relationship)
slubberdegullion Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Why is it a guy can show up knowing he's going to see a certain girl, knowing he's gonna get some, knowing he likes her, fools around with her, then doesn't call all week????? Busy or not, it doesn't take that long to pick up a phone and say hi. Guys, does this mean you're not into the girl and just looking for some ass?????? (no, the guy I'm seeing is NOT married, or even in a relationship) Why are you waiting for him to call? If you want to talk to him, call him yourself.
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Why are you waiting for him to call? If you want to talk to him, call him yourself. Actually, I've left him two messages already, and I know he's a workaholic, but I won't call anymore, cause I don't want to seem desperate. I really do like this guy, and I know he likes me. I also know he'll show up again this week, knowing I'm out, and the fooling around will happen again, because I want it to, and so does he. It just makes me feel like **** that he can't call me to say hi during the week. Kinda makes me feel like a slut.
consumed Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Why are you waiting for him to call? If you want to talk to him, call him yourself. He's got a point. But do you know how often I call girls? All the time. The girl I was just seeing I called all last week. She was surprised because like you she the same thing that guys usually don't call when they say they will. Honestly though, I think girls should call more often. Rarely does a girl call, they seem to always wait for me to call and it shouldn't always be that way.
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I disagree on this one! He is not calling because he does not have to. He is getting his milk for free so to speak! He is making no effort because he does not have to - He knows his booty will be there waiting at the end of the week! Can you give us more detail on the situation with you and him? 1
hyakku Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 No he's not he's using a good "technique" if you would call it that. The proof that its working? This thread. Now I wouldn't say that not calling you at all is the right way to go, but calling maybe once or twice a week just for a bit to talk is showing that he has a LIFE. Would you prefer him to call you for four hours a day and just stick under you and not leave you alone? Thought so .
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 I disagree on this one! He is not calling because he does not have to. He is getting his milk for free so to speak! He is making no effort because he does not have to - He knows his booty will be there waiting at the end of the week! Can you give us more detail on the situation with you and him? Long story, but I will make it as short as I can. I met this guy I'm kind of seeing now through my ex boyfriend. It's his best friend of 30 yrs. I broke up with the other guy after about a year of dating, because unbenonst to me, he is married. We still hang out as friends, because we work together. So since we broke up, I started hooking up with his friend (whom I have liked since I met him a year ago). We've fooled around a couple of times so far, and the first time we did, he wanted to keep it a secret from his friend because he knows my ex still has feelings for me. Well, I am still close with my ex as friends, so I told him that me and his friend were together. So, I made it known to my ex that his friend is who I want to be with. He said he is fine with that, which he should be...seeing as how he has a wife at home! So, all of us go out once a week, and the one I like always comes out, and knows I want him to go home with me. OK, so how confusing was that???? Any more questions I'll be happy to answer to explain the situation.
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 No he's not he's using a good "technique" if you would call it that. The proof that its working? This thread. Now I wouldn't say that not calling you at all is the right way to go, but calling maybe once or twice a week just for a bit to talk is showing that he has a LIFE. Would you prefer him to call you for four hours a day and just stick under you and not leave you alone? Thought so . No, I wouldn't like that. I have a LIFE, too, but I manage to put in a phone call to the people I care about. It just makes me feel like a slut.... . Isn't there such a thing as common courtesy???? I was just giving him road head on Tuesday...but he can't call to say hello?????? 1
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 he is just a fk buddy! OK, so if that is true....how do I get more of a dating scene, rather than a FWB?
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 You stop letting him get freaky with you until he pays you more attention! He is having his cake and easting it baby and you are letting him. If you want more than you have then tell him, if he does not do anything about it then you know where you stand with him! Tell you you dont do FWB's and see what he says - Good luck and let us know what you do and the result!
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Best thing - Dont go out and see him for a few weeks and see if he calls!
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Best thing - Dont go out and see him for a few weeks and see if he calls! I started this weekly night out 2 years ago...without him. It's at MY bart that I've been going to for years (I even have my own table there). He lives about an hour and a half away, but drives out to where I am. I go out every week to the same place with or without him, but always with my work crew. So maybe, HE SHOULD just stay home. 1
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Ok here is the plan! Dont call him any more this week ok ....... Then next week you make sure that you look hotter than he has ever seen you look! Be polite to him (dont drink alot or all goodintention goes out of the window) Then at the end of the night say goodnight to him and go home alone! Do not ask him home and if he asks tell him that you do not take men home who cannot even be bothered to make a short call in the week! Then tell him that you do not do FWB and that he should have been more honest regarding his intentions! If you could do that it would clear it all up for you! 1
hyakku Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 No, I wouldn't like that. I have a LIFE, too, but I manage to put in a phone call to the people I care about. It just makes me feel like a slut.... . Isn't there such a thing as common courtesy???? I was just giving him road head on Tuesday...but he can't call to say hello?????? I know harsh but what can you do. I would've called at least once or twice but he's not me .
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Ok here is the plan! Dont call him any more this week ok ....... Then next week you make sure that you look hotter than he has ever seen you look! Be polite to him (dont drink alot or all goodintention goes out of the window) Then at the end of the night say goodnight to him and go home alone! Do not ask him home and if he asks tell him that you do not take men home who cannot even be bothered to make a short call in the week! Then tell him that you do not do FWB and that he should have been more honest regarding his intentions! If you could do that it would clear it all up for you! GREAT PLAN....I'LL TELL YOU HOW IT WORKS...WE GO OUT TUESDAY.....THANK YOU!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Stay away from workaholics. Most of them use their work as a way of distancing themselves from commitment. Don't call him. Find a guy who will call YOU. Trust me...I speak from experience here (several experiences, actually). If you fall for his "I was so swamped and too busy to call" line of BS, then you are just asking to get your heart broken.
Vincent Vega Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Why is it a guy can show up knowing he's going to see a certain girl, knowing he's gonna get some, knowing he likes her, fools around with her, then doesn't call all week????? Busy or not, it doesn't take that long to pick up a phone and say hi. Guys, does this mean you're not into the girl and just looking for some ass?????? (no, the guy I'm seeing is NOT married, or even in a relationship) you're still into him, aren't you?
Author wanda1974 Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 you're still into him, aren't you? Of course I'm into this guy...not the other one I was dating...I broke that off when I found out he was married. I even told the married guy that I wanted his friend from the time I met him.....he's sooooo my type. He shaves his head...very sexy...., rides a Harley, and most of all, doesn't have a wife at home. Yes, I like him very much, but just confused right now, cause I feel like a whore every time I'm with him, and then he doesn't call. I don't want to be his FWB...I want more.
Lishy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 If he was interested then however busy he was at work he would make a lousy 5 minutes to call you - He would have to as he would WANT to! I wish I had this advise a few months back!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 If he was interested then however busy he was at work he would make a lousy 5 minutes to call you - He would have to as he would WANT to! I wish I had this advise a few months back! Aww, Lishy, you mean you didn't buy and read the "He's Just Not That Into You" book?
TheSwordfish Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Maybe he's playing hard to get. Not being available makes you wnat him even more. That is untill you decide it's not worth it anymore. Doing the same thing yourself will probably mean the end of all this. he might even eb afraid to call you.....
Lishy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Why would he be afraid to call her? Jus curious!
TheSwordfish Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Well somehow it always gives me the creeps to call a girl. Especially when you really like her, you're way to busy with thinking what to say. When I'm actually into someone it makes me nervous as hell. Just talking for myself here though. Sometimes when i'm crazy about a girl, and I have her phonenumber and all, i am daydreaming about her all day, but I don't call her. Usually a girl will call me in the end though.
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