nightowl Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 He called me and we talked. He doesn't want to break up. I told him again what I needed, and he insists that he needs time to himself right now, but doesn't want to lose me. He thinks I am being impatient and pushing him to be in a relationship, he says he is not ready now, but will be soon. I used an excuse to get off of the phone. I feel so hurt and frustrated. I feel like I'm right back at square one. This guy took off, he is living really far away from me right now, I cannot even have a face to face conversation with him, but he doesn't want to lose me? This is so hard!!!
bluechocolate Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Why are you talking to him? If he needs time to himself, then give it to him. He thinks I am being impatient and pushing him to be in a relationship.... And you got to this point all by your lonesome? Seems to me like you were both starting a relationship & then he was the one who packed up & moved away. This guy took off, he is living really far away from me right now, I cannot even have a face to face conversation with him, but he doesn't want to lose me? I still maintain that he is not being entirely truthful with you. Have you gotten a satisfactory explanation as to the reasons for this sudden move?How many people pack up & move town because they got freaked after being in a relationship of a few months? There is something else going on here. I've just written this to someone else - he is dictating the terms of your relationship right now. It's all his way or the highway. You do have some control here & I think you should exercise it.
In Sync Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I'm beginning to realize a hard truth about relationship, there's only two ways they can go...two people who grow old together until death do you part or eventually all things like a wonderful movie come to an end. And depending your personal story it can be a happy ending or sad one. Your bf may indeed not want to lose you..but his feelings of wanting time to himself outweighs the desire to remain in the relationship. SO he is exercising his choice to move on as oppose to staying forever in something he is not willing to keep at. Knowing this why wreck your brain with pointless questions... read his actions and save yourself the pain of dragging it out, hoping that he'll stay with you. Do you actaully think he's going to turn his thinking around and want to stay with you... want to marry you... have kids grow old with you. And the same question goes for you? Is he someone you want to be with forever...my point is, you don't need to frustrate yourself over this guy, because maybe the one you are meant to be with is out there for you...why wait around for the guy who's telling you he ain't ready for a relationship with you?
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