She told me she didnt want to ruin our friendship

[deathangel]

To keep the story short, I have known this girl for a long time. We get on really well. Recently I told her I liked her more than just a friend (through a text which wasnt the most ideal way to do it), but anyway she replied two days later saying that our freindship was just so great and she didnt want to ruin that.

 

Thing is I still really like and although I keep telling myself I have to get over it, Im finding it hard to. I guess you can't get over the one girl you really like.

 

Other friends of mine have told me just to keep it cool (like it is now) and see what happens if anything does happen, however Im not sure thats a good idea.

 

Would appreciate your opinions. Thanks

[hyakku]

Listen to your friends.

 

You've hit the friendzone, if you keep pushing you will more than likely ruin the friendship.

 

Cut your losses and move on, use it as a learning experience. You can't go from being a woman's male girlfriend (close male friend), to lover. When was the last time you saw a heterosexual woman date her girlfriend?

[slubberdegullion]

Hyakku is right. You're stuck in the friend zone. Once you pass the event horizon, it's like a black hole; there is no escape.

 

I really don't understand women who think like this, like the friendship will be "ruined" if it evolves into something more intimate. That makes no sense to me whatsoever.

 

But, for whatever reason, it makes sense to her.

 

You've made your feelings clear, she rebuffed them. Move on.

[hyakku]

Hyakku is right. You're stuck in the friend zone. Once you pass the event horizon, it's like a black hole; there is no escape.

 

I really don't understand women who think like this, like the friendship will be "ruined" if it evolves into something more intimate. That makes no sense to me whatsoever.

 

But, for whatever reason, it makes sense to her.

 

You've made your feelings clear, she rebuffed them. Move on.

 

I understand why they do it.

 

Let's say one of your friends who you didn't find really attractive (female) came up to you and said she wanted to be more than friends. You don't wanna just go, "Eww get away from me." because you are friends so you let them down easy. Again same thing, she's letting him down easy.

 

Alot of guys think that if they like the woman the woman should at least give them a chance, but really if you don't like someone intimately in the first place, why give them a chance. Our brains are wired like this and first impressions make the biggest dent.