Lishy Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 I need some advice on this guys! Next week I am going out with about 12 friends to celebrate my friends birthday! I was really looking forward to it, then yesterday I ask her where we are going - She tells me that we will be going to the club that Mr Driveby works at! Ok So I have 2 choices - Go or don't go! My initial response was that I would make an excuse and not go - I cant tell her where she should go on her birthday! My friends tell me I should not avoid the place just because he works there! The chances are that he will be outside most of the night - But there is also a chance that it wont be busy and he could be inside - The last time I went there he was staring at me all night! I also worry that he will think I am going there to see him (which I am not) Would he think that? What do I do guys?
kitten chick Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 f*** HIM! (figuratively not literally) Do not let him ruin your plans. Just pretend he isn't there and have fun with your friends.
Author Lishy Posted January 28, 2006 Author Posted January 28, 2006 Will he get big headed thinking I am there to see him?
kitten chick Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 If you're there with a lot of people then he will have to know that you didn't drag all of your friends to this place just to see him. If he can't figure that out then he's not all that smart and you especially shouldn't worry about it. When I was afraid to go to places for fear of running into my ex everyone kept telling me not to let him run my life, not to give him that power over me. So I'm passing that advice along to you. Don't give him any more power over you, he doesn't deserve it. Live your life for you.
Author Lishy Posted January 28, 2006 Author Posted January 28, 2006 hmmmm I guess you are right babe!
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Would be cool to have more advise guys!!!!!!!!
Gold Pile Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 So soon after the last time, I would think it wasn't a coincidence. He'll think you're there to tease him, or that you want to see him. Stay home with your GP doll;)
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Should it matter what HE thinks tho? Should I care? I wont be saying anything to him or even talking to him! 1
Gold Pile Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Should it matter what HE thinks tho? Should I care? I wont be saying anything to him or even talking to him! Fact is you do care...don't cha? Just my 2 cents.
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 yeah I guess I do I was really looking forward to that night out tho! Mr P - I will see him around anyway, he lives close by - Should I forfeit a night out because of him? There is a high chance he will be outside all night!
bluetuesday Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Should it matter what HE thinks tho? Should I care? I wont be saying anything to him or even talking to him! this whole thread is about the fact that you DO care, or it wouldn't exist. it's not so long since the chocolate mini skirt and boots night, if i recall. if i were him, i'd think it wasn't a coincidence you were back so soon.
bluetuesday Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 yShould I forfeit a night out because of him? no, not because of him. you should forfeit the night out because of YOU. because you can't stop wondering what he'll think. it's YOU who doesn't need you to be there. this isn't about him at all, just about getting you to a place and time when he's out of your thoughts. i don't think seeing him more than you absolutely need to is helping.
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Thanks for your advice Blue Can I ask a question ...... If you was him and thought I WAS there to see you, but I didnt ask you home or even really talk to you would you still think the same? My problem is that I am a people pleaser, I worry about what others think! My head is telling me that I am 34 years old and what he thinks or doesnt think should not matter! I had no ontention of going in there again but my friend will be upset if I do not go out! Surely actions speak louder than words? I will never give him an opportunity with me again!
Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 If you go again, he'll most certainly think you're there to see him, but if you don't care what he thinks and you want to be with your friends, then go.
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 I want to not care what he thinks! I suppose I am silly to go in there as I must care or I would not ask advice eh! I am so pissed that he has the power over me to dictate where I go on a night out! I REALLY want to not care and to be honest I really do not know why I do care! He is a prick! I would not want to date him seriously anyway! Its pure lonliness and the overwhelming feeling for the closeness we shared! Grrrrrrrrrrrrr
Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Its pure lonliness and the overwhelming feeling for the closeness we shared! Grrrrrrrrrrrrr Snuggle up close to me tonight and I'l try to kill the loneliness. That's totally not a lesbian thing either.
Milo Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Any chance you can get a date for that night? Or at the very least, sit next to some attractive guy in your party. That's a general rule of thumb for any party situation in any case: Sit next to the hotties.
bluetuesday Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Thanks for your advice Blue Can I ask a question ...... If you was him and thought I WAS there to see you, but I didnt ask you home or even really talk to you would you still think the same? ask yourself this. when he drove past your house but didn't stop to speak to you or say hi, did you think it was a coincidence? yes, i'd think you were teasing me or trying to let me know how fine you were without me. either way, i'd know you were thinking about me. stay away from that place. and when you see him somewhere else, smile to yourself and walk on by.
Author Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Lone do you ever crave that closeness, that feeling of safeness? I dont mean sex I mean feeling secure and safe in somones arms? I miss it so much - And because he was the last guy I had that with I base it all on him! I want to go out next week and I will - I have decided! And if he thinks I am there to see him then he will soon realise that he is wrong! I will be polite, say hello and keep my back to him all night! I was gonna wear trousers this time so he didnt think I was trying to get him back, but BOLLOX I am gonna wear a killer short skirt becuase I WANT to! He wont be coming home with me - No one will, but I will go out and have a fantastic time with my friends! Maybe even pull a guy for a snog eh lol
riobikini Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I am only a fly on the wall with all of this. (Smile) -Rio
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 go lonestar , have a good time , dont let him make you hide away.You already said youd be seeing him around anyway. Just act like he followed you there ...
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 go lishy, have a good time , dont let him make you hide away.You already said youd be seeing him around anyway. Just act like he followed you there ...
lilmoma1973 Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I agree with Milo get you a date and go up in the club with someone on your arms !! That sh@@ will make him so mad and see that you are over him and have moved on .. Lishy don't let him stop you from having fun at all go and have you a hot guy on your arm and don't even give him a look!!
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