confused _one Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Recently in my one and a half year relationship with my b.f weve been having quite a few problems that have just come up recently. When do you draw the line? Last night on the phone with my b.f he has told me there is no such thing as unconditional love for your partner can that be true? Hes put so much stress on me lately Ive graduated a year early from high school because he threatened my relationship. So being me that I am I did, after that it seems like he demands more and more last night while on the phone talking about going to University he told me that either I go or the same old threating of the relationship and that either I do or our relationship will be over. Does unconditional love really not exist? I know he doesnt love me unconditionally is this signs of him really not loving you for you? And if so whens enough enough?
slubberdegullion Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 ...last night while on the phone talking about going to University he told me that either I go or the same old threating of the relationship and that either I do or our relationship will be over. I'm not sure I understand. You either go to University or the relationship is over? Is that what you mean? Does unconditional love really not exist? No, of course not. Unconditional love is the stuff of fairy tales, but in the real world of alarm clocks and traffic jams and crying babies and dog poop, everyone has their breaking point.
IrishCarBomb Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Whoa... why rearrange your entire life for this guy? Do you want him to realize he can force you to change yourself at his whim? Unconditional love doesn't exist. Could you say you'd love some guy if he turned into a completely different person, truly hated you, abused you, and locked you in a closet? What I mean is that unconditional love means you love somebody no matter what. It's absurd to accept something like that. Sure, it's unreasonable for a person to start maliciously abusing you out of nowhere, or lock you in a closet... but if love were unconditional... those (unlikely) conditions would have to be included. Blah blah blah... now I'm just getting philosophical. I wouldn't call it unconditional love... but what people mean when they say that is that they'll be in love for all reasonably foreseeable conditions. Which exists. There can be two personalities that mesh so well that despite hardships of life, those people will get along. Sure... it won't be the steamy romance novel, or anything you see from Hollywood. But it will be a lasting and fulfilling relationship. You're barely out of high school.... as much as you may not think so... you will be a different person in the next 5 years. Until you or your boyfriend have a better idea of who you are... you will not be able to recognize that you could love each other.
Author confused _one Posted January 28, 2006 Author Posted January 28, 2006 yes either I go to university or its over
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