Meeka Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Oh lord....where do i start. I've been getting to know someone from work (I know) on a friendship level....2 weeks ago he asked me out to the movies, so I said Ok. We go and who shows up....another coworker.....(lol) The coworker ends up asking if we were on a date, and we never discussed it, so he goes "I guess we're on a date..... . . .? " and I keep my mouth shut. We both get teased sometimes for it. I want to stay professional about my work and still be this guy's friend/ date whatever that is happening between us, but it feels like i'm even avoiding him this way. Two days ago I went over to his house, and ate dinner with him/met his parents. It went really well, considering I get nervous being over at other peoples homes. We played games, and he showed me around on one. His friend called and he told him he was on a hot date and that he would be busy. ( i didnt know what to think of that , because i still didnt know if he was interested in me, or what. I assumed just friends) lol :| Phone call over.. A little history about this guy, is that in highschool people thought he was gay - he doesnt drool over girls. at least I've never even seen him pay attention to any....its weird..... in fact when I first met him, I thought he disliked me. But now i am sharing game cds with him and talking to him occasionally on MSN. I guess this might seem a little pathetic, but we have a lot of the same hobbies. You name it. I love that I can talk to him so much, without ever worrying we don't have much in common. Here's where the problem is............. he doesnt seem to care a whole lot. I get my hopes up when he asks me out and never ends up calling....It's always him asking me out to do something, so I go "sure". Even asks me infront of my other coworkers. I end up spending the weekends by myself, when i could be doing something else. I would ask him myself, but I cann never think of anything to do with him....First time, we went to the movies, second time... went to his house.... third time.... this where I go blank. I think I want a relationship with this guy, and he's dropped hardly any signals...if not, zero. it doesnt look like anything is going to happen. Should i try asking him out myself? i was thinking of doing a Zombie movie night (hey hed like that). Other than that, I really dont think i'll be seeing him until the middle of next week, because of his gaming. Anyway, just wondering if anyone had any advice for me...its not really a dilemma, I am just wondering how I should be handling this (or if I should be doing anything like take initiative) ahhh...
7on Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Ask him out. What could it hurt? Perhaps something romantic or insane like parachuting. shrug.
dgiirl Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 gamer huh? He should like zombie movies! I say if he asked you out the first two times, and considering he mentioned you two were out on a date and you were too shy to say something, I think he might be getting mixed signals from you. He's not sure if you are interested or not. I would ask him out to the movie and see what happens from there. It has to be a give and take, and since he's asked you twice now, it's your turn to ask him
Mary3 Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Its most interesting that you both share some cool hobbies. I have read where that can lead to great lasting relationships. Its not that you both love the same bands ( or pizza ) but that you share a more unique hobby. I would advise you ask him out. I think you guys would do great. ! I don't know how interested he honestly is but if he IS interested you gotta get moving girl !
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