sick of it Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 How many here were/are still very affected after a breakup of a serious relationship of more than 3yrs? How long was the relationship? How long ago was the breakup? How are you still affected?
wanda1974 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 How many here were/are still very affected after a breakup of a serious relationship of more than 3yrs? How long was the relationship? How long ago was the breakup? How are you still affected? I was married for 8 years. The divorce was final 2 years ago (September). Sometimes I miss him, sometimes I thank God we broke up. He left me for another woman, so I will always be affected by that. It hurt.
Author sick of it Posted January 27, 2006 Author Posted January 27, 2006 i was with my ex for 5.5 years. she wanted a "break" last may then ditched me for another guy. its been about 8 months. i still think about her everyday. how happy she told me she is. the manner in which she threw away 5.5 years without seemingly looking back or acknowledging that i meant anything. it is getting better, but other than on LS, i dont know anyone who's been in a relationship for that long (not marriage) and gone through this. I feel like ive gone through a divorce....but we werent married so she was "allowed to do whatever she wanted"
In Sync Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 I wasn't been involved with the x for three years, but HELL, I still feel the aftermath of something I wouldn't wish on an enemy. Anytime anyone invests their heart in a relationship, you are and can will be affected for months or years. Some people can be married for years and their hearts are not in to, and when it ends, there's no complete devatastion and some people can be involved so intensely for short periods of times...bam it ends and they are left shattered. I think it's all about how much you opened your heart to the one who also broke it.
Author sick of it Posted January 27, 2006 Author Posted January 27, 2006 i absolutley agree. im not saying less than 3 years is insignificant, far from it. i think there are a lot of people with shorter relationships than 3 years. i think im just trying to see if theres any difference.
bluetuesday Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 was with my ex boyf, later my fiance, for 6 years. he cheated, i left. that was five years ago this month. within a few months i felt over it, completely. i had stopped crying within three weeks of the break up. i realised he was an a**h***, which really helped. after a year i was not even thinking that much about him. trusting again and moving on is a force of will, and i refused to let such a scumbag ruin what was left of my 20s. i discovered resources i didn't know i had. i discovered i was a strong person. i started dating seriously again about a year later.
Bogun Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 The relationship that brought me to this site ended almost a year ago. I still occassionally think about her, and yes there is still some pain there, but I've found its quite a pleasant pain now. Sounds a bit crazy probably, maybe its my former artistic life taking its affect. All that suffering artist/muse romantic stuff.
coasting Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 I lived with the ex for 3 years! I worked in the same hospital as him for 5 years. The break up was ten weeks ago. He moved out one day while I was at work, leaving me a note on the kitchen table. Now keep in mind we still are working in the hospital. I am in the emergency room and he is a security guard in the hospital basically stationed in the emergency room. He left me to move in with another woman who also works in the hospital. In the admitting department. As I have said over and over again, this was the ultimate betrayal. It has affected me mentally, emotionally, physically and if I would let it, it would affect my career, but I refuse to leave my job to make life easier for him or her for that matter. I honestly do not think I will ever get over the devastation he caused on that Saturday, It is something i will carry for the rest of my life. I have also learned to t=let the other one see that you can make it on your own, Even if you are hurtingas we all are, do not let that other one see the pain. Let them see you looking great, otherwise you are giving into them, by allowing them to have their cake and eating it as well. The best revenge is living well!
Art_Critic Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 I was married 5 years.. I divorced her and have never looked back.. I love the fact that I'm out og that toxic relationship.. Abut 6 months after the divorce I started dating.. it was tough as I still felt married.. but after about 10 months there was never going back.. The last serious relationship I had ended a little over a year ago.. although I am over her I never liked the way it ended ( guilt ) and think of her at times..sometimes wishing that I could go back for a redo.. Even though I have been dating since about 2 months after the breakup That is life..
brooke7777 Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 We were together for 3 1/2 years It's been a little over 5 months I'm still going through the ups and downs and still think about him a lot. I can function normally, but I feel like I'm just going through the motions.
My_Other_I Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 How many here were/are still very affected after a breakup of a serious relationship of more than 3yrs? How long was the relationship? Over 4 years How long ago was the breakup? Almost a year ago How are you still affected? Still think of him and sometimes catch my self thinking 'what if' (I was the dumper), but it doesn't hurt anymore. Still have down days though, but very rarely:rolleyes:
lost/found? Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Lived together for 5 years and have been broken up for over 3 months. It still hurts like hell and i think about her all of time. I still have hope from some of the things she has said in past conversations. i have learned alot from this breakup and realize that it needed to happen whether we get back together or not.
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