Guest#2 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Hello...I need some advice!! Me and my gf been going out for about a month & 1/2.... we hit it of pretty good we enjoy all the time we spend together.......so one night we decided to go out to the clubs with her and my friends...and at the end of the night we meet up with some of her old friends and one guy that I really hated...and she knew it cause i told her this before...kinda wanted to fight him cause of the misery he put me throught high school.....by the way i'm 22 years old and that guy is kinda an old friend so they huged...(it was ok)...but then came the kiss on the lips!!!!......(not ok!!) then i comfronted her right after he left, and she felt really bad and was pissed off at her self .....so I told her that we will talk in the morning (too much noise)....she was really really drunk and she says she don't remember anything ,witch could be true...? by the way she draged me away from the guy cause i was going to fight him..lol (the day will come)....so yeah should I be worried...cause i got too say i never seen this girl this drunk before...so pls help me with this problem!!! thx in advance
hyakku Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 End it. If she was so drunk she doesn't remember, then she should have had more self control. If she can remember and she is lying, now she is also lying to you, and if you accept this, this is a huge signal that is saying, "HEY WALK ALL OVER ME, I'VE PUT MY BALLS IN YOUR VICE GRIP. Alcohol does NOT make you do anything. You have the ultimate decision, now if the guy kissed her and she pushed him off and yelled and shouted thats different, but she let him, enjoyed it, and then you WAITED to confront her AFTER he left? Come on man, he kissed your woman in front of you, and you WAITED for him to leave to say something? You need to reframe. Now. Drop her, you have alot of work, you need to set up from the beginning how you like your relationships, and you NEED to stop letting people walk over you (her and him). Even if you wouldn't have won the fight, its better than having your pride stolen from you like a stripper throwing her top off. Your pride just went FLYING out of the window and into hell. Stop this, be more secure, if it doesn't work out with her, there are MILLIONS....wait BILLIONS of women out there for you. You don't have to take this bull****. 1
slubberdegullion Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Lose this drama queen, the quicker the better. Drop her like a rotten potato at a maggot festival. But there's no point thudding the other guy, he's just responding to her. Buy him a beer, and tell him how close he came to being sucked into her little drama world.
barfool Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Who initiated the kiss? If it was her, then that is definately a problem. If it was him, I can understand under the drunk circumstances of her not just outright slapping him. But don't worry about that guy. The issue is really between you and your girl. Don't waste your energy on him. 1
brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 You really should've said something when you saw it happening. No need to punch him or anything, but she's your gf and some kind of intervention was called for. As for her drunk excuse, that is total bs. Alcohol can lower your inhibitions, but it doesn't change your basic moral make-up. If she were totally passed out, sure, maybe she'd have a case. But if she were sober enough to stand on her own 2 feet then she was sober enough to decline the kiss. And the fact that she has no self-control when she's drinking is a bad sign. What're you going to do when she's out drinking without you? Maybe he initiated the kiss, but she still should've said no. This girl is bad news. Leave her and move on.
Mary3 Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I think she kissed him because she liked him. Total disregard for your feelings. Thats a boat load of sludge shes feeding you when she tells you she does not remember kissing him . If she can't remember that when shes drunk then what else has she done while being sloshed ??
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