I have to get this off my chest.

[almostthere]

I woke up so mad today. I cannot stand it anymore. For those of you remembering my other recent posts nothing has changed. Bf is still using my car, my phone, he does have a job now but I still am finding myself picking up the tab. And not to mention I fronted him his rent money. Yea I know...Im stupid. It was $1550. So...outside of all that. His exw is saying that the children dont like me now. Me and my children are just about moved in there now (accidentally). He lives 5 minutes from my babysitter so it is a thing of convenience. His exw would not allow my bf to watch their kids while she went to counseling last night because the children said they didnt want to be around me. The children talk to me all the time. I do his oldest girls hair for school and she sits and watches my do my hair and makeup. His youngest daughter says hi first of all of them and likes to sit and talk too. His son brings me "gifts" of things he finds around his dads house. This doesnt sound like kids that are bothered by me. They have never said anything remotely negative about me to my bf when I am not around. I think his exw is making it up. And she walks right into his house like she owns the place. without knocking or anything. SHE gets mad when I am there. She never lived a day in that house. he moved in that house 3 days before we started dating. She bought him cigarettes today. And when I asked where they came from he said I dont know. But I heard her say heres your smokes. I thought I was dreaming it up. She drops her kids off to us every morning at 4:30am. So I am not wide awake while she is there. All I know is I am ready to go. I love the guy and hes great with me and my kids...but this isnt working out for me. Should I really have to deal with all of this from an exw? I have dating other single dads but none of them ever had these problems. I just needed to get this off my chest. And since I am at work...I dont have anyone to tell my story to right now..and I am very upset.

[Shana]

Take what's yours and leave. Forget about conveince of child care down the street. This Ex W is always going to be there one way or another and with kids involved you bet there will be lots of she said/she said/he said going on.

 

I also don't think your b/f is being up and honest with you... think about it who needs this crap this day and age? There are other out there without this hassle and baggage hence: the Ex W, (not the kids fault). Good luck to you.

[almostthere]

Thanks for your response. I think...actually I know you're right. Sometimes I feel like a kid because I cant handle his ex and the way she is. But at other times I believe that I would never allow my exh to ever treat anyone the way he lets his ex treat me. It was stupid for me to get mad at this comment right?.... They were doing their almost nightly routine of arguing over the phone. and I accidentally heard one sentence and of course it had to be him saying...if the roles were reversed then (pause) (studder) I would be ok with it. As long as you are happy. I dont know why that got me mad. but it did. I never cared if my ex was happy in the new relationship with his gf. as long as the kids were. I know my reaction is childish to this but after dealing with this same thing over and over...I am fed up. I am thinking of walking away tonight. I am working here til 5 and I start my second job at 8 or 9 and dont get off til 3 but I am thinking that between 6 and 8 I can get it all off my chest.