whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 I'd still like add though, (and I am pretty sure the mods/Admin know this too because those HOT threads are not deleted) ALL OF IT is in good taste and fun. Those who want to join in, do. If someone doesn't like the Hot thread thing, then they just don't participate. (But I'll bet you 100 bucks they sit and read it!)
Art_Critic Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 So, I should stop sleeping on the couch downstairs waiting for Art to knock??? hahaha.. the only knocking will be me knocking the bottom out it when I wake you up from the couch...
JadeStar Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 No its not that I think shes looking to hook up really. However, we have had some past issues we have been working on about things, and I understand she can come here to seek advice etc, but when a marriage is already in a vulnerable state to begin with I feel talking dirty about things be it for fun and games is still not a good idea. She has asked questions on here reguarding things about sex seeking advice,which is something I don't really care for, she needs to talk with me about things and our counselor not everybody under the sun. And yes I have seen where she also talks about things sexually thats not been a questioned she has asked. Yes she lets me read her posts sometimes. Not any that have been sexual though. I found those on my own by doing a search for her name. She acts real strange when shes been on here sometimes. I will walk in and she will close it out, guess thats when shes talking her sex talk on here or something. And even though she feels she has nothing to hide, thats great but can become a problem in itself becasue what she sees she is doing she feels is not wrong, where as I do when it comes to talking about certain things. I don't post things about our life, and I sure wouldn't do it about something sexual. Thats to be discussed amount her and I and our counselor if need be. Like I said if I were to joke about things in a sexual manner, wheather I was looking for advice or fun and games she would have my head on a platter. Now is that fair? I wouldn't do it one because I don't care too, and I don't because I know she wouldn't like it. We have discussed this before, but I see it matters not what I feel on the matter, shes going to do it anyway. I also will not talk with her about this again right away, even though I should but shes gonna do it anyway, so I will lay low and continue to see whats going on first. People do joke and kiid around and it is or can be fun and games sometimes, no harm done. However since this bothers you, I was going to say you need to have a talk with her but, I see where you said this has been discussed before and she still does it. So you probably feel she is disrespecting you by continuing to do this? I really don't know what else to tell you then if you have talked to her about it. Jade
d'Arthez Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Those who want to join in, do. If someone doesn't like the Hot thread thing, then they just don't participate. (But I'll bet you 100 bucks they sit and read it!) It is like claiming that you don't have political influence as you don't vote - and that the decisions of those in power should not affect you (tax raises anyone?), as you did not get them into office. It does not work like that. Or is it perfectly permissible, if I offend and degrade posters in political threads, in sections where those posters do not post? The only reason for which I read the hot threads now, is to check if I do not get insulted in them. Well, that is a great reason, is not it? We have seen that things get easily out of line. Two months ago just that happened. Don't want to go there again. As for Blazin2: talk with your partner. And try to resolve the issues at stake. Won't be easy, but should be possible.
Blazin2 Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Thanks for your replies and views on my situation. I keep seeing where people say "talk to your wife." I have been talking to her for along time. I feel it sometimes falls I def ears. Not sure what it is I have said or done. Also like I said, I do not mind her coming here and seeking advice for things etc, but there are times when I feel she shares way to much info and the sexual talk play is out of hand. I understand some of you may not see it like that, and thats fine, I'm not knocking how others see it, I'm just letting others know that I don't particulary care for it. Someone asked if she knew I made this post. I didn't tell her I made it, but she comes on here enough and reads enough posts, I don't see how she could have missed it. Shes bound to know.I'm hoping she will. She comes here looking for advice, and lets others read about her/my life etc, then so can I let others read about how I'm feeling on the matter. Someone also asked me who is my wife on here. I wont do that to her. I wont call her out by her user name. I don't have too, she knows who she is especially if shes read this post. I see alot of justfication on here on alot of posts. Especially about why people do this or that. Anyway thanks again for listening.
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