agnf666 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Okay, so my boyfriend is a workoholic... I mean he likes to get over time all the time. In which, I don't mind it but I would like to spend atleast one day a week with him. I don't think that is asking too much... Or is it? So, this week... He worked overtime, and now he has the flu. So, since he has the flu he won't call me he only text messages me... What is with that? Men get wierd when they are sick... They like shut people out or something... We talk everyday but it is very short conversations. Mostly text message conversations. So, I decided that I'm not going to ask him to hang out. It is now his turn to decided. Everytime I ask he is either working over time or is sick. I might be making too much of this but he has been acting wierd lately. I was reading another thread about men working alot becuase they are scared of commitment in a relationship (I think that's what it was about)... So, could that be it... I'm just looking for suggestions.
csfong007 Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 Okay, so my boyfriend is a workoholic... I mean he likes to get over time all the time. In which, I don't mind it but I would like to spend atleast one day a week with him. I don't think that is asking too much... Or is it? *I think one day a week is reasonable. So, this week... He worked overtime, and now he has the flu. So, since he has the flu he won't call me he only text messages me... What is with that? Men get wierd when they are sick... They like shut people out or something... *Please try to be reasonable. When someone has the flu, they feel like crap, achey, tired, don't feel well, don't want to talk to anyone. Please give him the benefit of the doubt when he's well. Everyone handles illness differently. So, I decided that I'm not going to ask him to hang out. It is now his turn to decided. Everytime I ask he is either working over time or is sick. *Honestly, I don't think that's quite right. I do think he probably puts in a lot of overtime, but seriously, he doesn't always get sick, right? Besides, illness is not his fault. *My boyfriend works a lot, too. Try to look at it that you're happy that he's working so hard, trying to make more money, trying to accomplish things. Think of it this way...his working overtime is better than his going out with other women, flirting with other women, seeing other women, getting drunk with the guys, pissing his time away. At least you know where he is. I might be making too much of this but he has been acting wierd lately. I was reading another thread about men working alot becuase they are scared of commitment in a relationship (I think that's what it was about)... So, could that be it... *I can't really say why your boyfriend works overtime. I'm sure there are many reasons: he needs the extra money, he needs to get the projects done, maybe he wants to save his money to buy something for you, for some people it's in their nature to work really hard. My boyfriend works really hard and long hours, too...late hours, on the weekends. I wish I could see him more often, too. But it isn't the case. So, we either have to live with it or live without it. It's your choice. Your boyfriend isn't going to change. So, you can either somehow get used to it or walk away. It's up to you. *Something I do suggest is for you to develop yourself during the time that you're not with him: spend time with your family, friends, take a class, take up a new hobby, take up a new sport, work out, whatever. The main thing is to keep busy. *I know it's really difficult. It's difficult for me each day as well. Aside from work, I quilt, I belong to a book club, I try to do things with friends, and so forth. The more you can keep busy with your own things the more skills you will develop, become a more interesting person, and learn and grow. So, do something you've always wanted to do...paint, photography, job, bike, bead, whatever, just do something. *I hope this has helped.
Author agnf666 Posted January 28, 2006 Author Posted January 28, 2006 Yah I have been thinking abou this all night. Now, he did tell me that he has some kind of immune problem that makes him more prone to get sick or the flu more then anyone. So, I can't be mad at that. He does handle illness wierd. He kindof shuts people out or something. Working over time is better then him spending time with other woman. I work second shift... So, I go to work and go home. I do go out with friends and I do a number of other things. So, it's not like I have nothing to do... I was just in a really pissy mood yesterday... That has to be it. I think it is good that he wants to work all those hours... So, I will not break up with him over that...
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