kellyp1 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 When you give someone time to think about the relationship, when it a typical timeframe to expect to hear from them? My story is I date the guy for 3 months but he 1. always came out my way for the dates (lives 45 minutes away) and never invited me up his way, 2. went from dates lasting 30 hours to dates lasting 4-5 and starting in the afternoon, and 3. made dates seem more of a convenience thing then a I like you thing. So I said that what he wanted wasn't what I was looking for and explained I wanted a regular dating relationship with him. He told me he really liked me but needed some time to think about things. It has been a week and half, I think I won't hear from him and should move on. But I wanted to hear opinion of how long I should wait to hear a response, if at all. I think he is a good guy but is nervous because of crazy, money hungry women he has dated in the past. He knows I am not like that, said so numerous times, but I think the baggage has created a wall that makes him afraid to let me into his life. I am 34, he is 33, both of us have never been married and don't have kids.
Author kellyp1 Posted January 27, 2006 Author Posted January 27, 2006 Well, my instincts have never put faith in guys when they say that and every guy before him has always surprised me and came back (different situations but same concept) within 2 weeks. After about a week and a half, I start to give up though and am less interested in actually letting a guy back in to my life and risk trusting him again. I also have some life altering plans coming up in my life that if he waits too long, I will be leading a pretty different life (I am going to be quitting my job, starting my own business with a friend and will have minimal income from a part-time job for 6 months. In addition to the fact that at least for the first year, the business will be my life.) I had briefly mentioned this to him before but things got very serious over the last 2 weeks with the business and wheels are in motion to get this started pretty soon. I also bought my first home and am moving in this weekend.
nightowl Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Wow! Congratulations! IMO you would be wise to focus on your new life, your business, your home and never mind about this guy. You have more important concerns right now. Your business will be like your 'baby' and it deserves a really good, strong, healthy 'mom'. Since you are losing interest anyway, I'd just let it go. He doesn't really sound like a keeper anyway. He has baggage, and he should be working through that BEFORE dating someone seriously. He is not in the same place emotionally that you are, you are not on the same page so to speak. He seems more like a 'casual' guy, don't settle for that if that is not what you want.
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