For You I Will Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Erika- I know i can stop seeing him on a personal level... but i know once we work & we are off... we will see eachother. Im ok w/ it now. I really am Iam not waiting for him. Iam not sad & hurt. I just like his company & presence & the way he kisses... I have come to a realization & Iam ok w/it. Thats it. I wont allow myself to feel any deeper. Thats all you gotta do. Just accept it, & have fun...feel sad & be in love...or JUST DONT DEAL W/ HIM!! Which is better?? I guess it all depends on what kind of person you are. But you can do it!! I have been thinking this past week.. & im sorry guys, but I DONT want to feel sad & depressed...wondering....thinking....I KNOW im finished w/those feelings...It will click one day....you will just think..."wow, wtf am i DOING!!!" lol I know there are plenty of guys out there for me.. I just refuse to see that....but if I just stop thinking for 1 SECOND!!.. maybe just maybe......it will be Ok. =) Its all a game.... In the game of seduction, there is only 1 rule.... Dont Fall In Love............................................................................................. w/ Married Men!!
Woo Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 The problem is, or in this case is, that it is not a problem, I want to keep seeing him, I love him, and I havent had any intermate contact, but I long for it... I wish it everyday, and I think about him everyday, even though I havent 'done' anything with him... I want to... I just don't know how to go about it, he's never cheated before, but I want him to cheat with me.. lol... I know it sounds harsh, but I really do love him. I have a thing for older guys you might say (him being 50) but its not like that... I like him for who he is, and not what his age is...
aklost101 Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 i am an on-again, off-again much younger OW. i finally got fed-up with his crap when he couldn't/wouldn't be there when i really needed him after an accident. ... i wish you the best in your struggle and only you can decide when/if you've had it. sometimes i break down and email him; it's quite the struggle... you say that you know he won't be leaving his wife b/c of her possible suicidal ideation. will you be happy knowing that is all you'll ever get? i know, many wise women on here asked me the same thing when i was posting more regularly-- and i didn't learn until i experienced it first-hand-- he's not the man i always thought he was. he's scum. which we should all know since he/they is/are cheating on his/their wife/wives with us. good luck and best wishes to you ((Hug))
JayKay Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 If a man can't 'be there' for his wife when she's ill he certainly won't 'be there' for you when it's an inconvenience
aklost101 Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 yeah yeah i hear ya. that would be why i am trying (so very hard) to go NC. i finally saw the light and thank you oh so very much for pointing out my tunnel-vision. your wisdom is just what i need. my point, if you read that far, was that like most things in life we learn, not from others mistakes and wisdom, but only from you own experience.
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