Superchic44 Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 My man of 7 years wont try anything new with me in the bedroom. I love him dearly and we get along pretty good, we have had past issues just as all people have, but he used to want to try different things. Don't get me wrong we do have sex and its great, but I would like to do some new things. I have asked him if it was me he says no. I thought men liked a variety of sex positions and all but he doesn't seem to want too. I have talked with him till I'm blue in the face about it, but it doesn't do any good. So what am I to do? Why are there some men that wont try new things? BTW I'm not like this at all I'm real sexaul person, and he used to not be like he is now, its like he has done a complette turnaround.What do I do?
JadeStar Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 You said you all have had past issues. What were they? Its possible if there are some issues that have not been resolved, then he might harbor some resentment since you said he used to not be like he is now. Also there are some people who are happy with the way things are sexually, he might be one of these people. He might just enjoy the same sexual positions. However, it seems this is a problem for you becasue you're wanting to try different things and that can be a problem in a relationship. I would suggest talking with him again and seeing if you can get to the root of why he wont do these things with you. Jade
slubberdegullion Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Jade is right. Start by working on the "issues" first. Once those are somewhat settled, remember that life rewards action. So don't ask, just DO.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 I think because of the past issues may not be resolved ,and being more open to new things makes you connect more. He doesn't want to connect with you on that level cause he is haboring resentment toward you ,and won't let himself get too close to you !! I would suggest going to marriage counseling to work through your problems and see why he is holding resentment towards you !! Good luck
littlekitty Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 What does he say when you do talk to him about it? Deny that he used to be more adventurous? Claim that he prefers basic sex now? Does he provide any answers or does he avoid the subject altogether? Surely he must realise you can see a difference? Perhaps he's feeling less body confident? Or less confident in any way? That can often effect how sexual a person feels?
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