Author cygny Posted January 29, 2006 Author Posted January 29, 2006 Cygny, I want pics haha trust me, if i was within shouting range of your online dating range, i'd be all over ya' lol
amerikajin Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Hmmm...I'd have to answer in the affirmative. I reluctantly admit to being intimidated by some women, although I am not nearly as bad as I used to be, I must say. The short of it is this: intimidation comes down to the level of security a person has about themselves. Some women (i.e. beautiful, educated women) make men more aware of their own weaknesses, and it scares a man to think of himself as weak in any capacity. I guess it depends on what you mean by 'intimidated'. There was once a time when I literally could not speak to a woman I found especially attractive...I just wouldn't know what to say, and when I did speak I was forever saying the wrong things. I was not taught much by my parents or anyone else about what makes a man's personality attractive, so I've had to learn on my own more or less. That's why I come here and why I visit other sites, and it's all been a big education to me. I think most of us know that there are some women who get our juices flowing. When we see them, we notice their extraordinary beauty, and if that's followed by a personality that we find attractive, then our interest level goes off the charts. I think that's when I get intimidated...because at that point I realize that it's no longer a question of whether I'm interested in her, it's a question of whether or not she's interested in me as well. That's when things like insecurity - that insidious monster that lurks within us all - starts to come to the table. I have to confess that, deep down and inside, I am at times a very insecure person. I like myself a lot, and I know I have extraordinary potential and talents, and I see myself as a fundamentally good person. But I also keep thinking to myself 'Am I what this woman sitting across from me wants?' It's a hard cycle to break out of, and it keeps costing me in relationships. I've read some dating experts talk about the 'inner game', and I believe that this is what matters most. If you believe in yourself, it shows. If you believe that you are worth something to a woman - any woman - then other women will pick up on that. The more you can keep this kind of mentality, the less you will be intimidated when that special women comes in and starts making you think about the long-term.
cal gal Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Amer, Beautifully explained and worded - much appreciated!
CaliGuy Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 haha trust me, if i was within shouting range of your online dating range, i'd be all over ya' lol Never say never
jerbear Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 For me, all the above. Her beauty got my attention, her intelligence held my attention, her independence got me to chase. Her personality intriques me. Her character kept me. I love older women, yes she is older than me & got an Ivy degree. I'm getting an Ivy masters. (one up since I already got a BS) I sat next to her, she asked the prof a question, we exchanged info, sent her flowers, and pursued her even 5 years later... knocking down one barrier at a time. Now age... she is older than me by about 9 years. Her court.
alphamale Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I sat next to her, she asked the prof a question, we exchanged info, sent her flowers, and pursued her even 5 years later... knocking down one barrier at a time. Now age... she is older than me by about 9 years. Her court. wow, you're quite the stud JERBEAR 1
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