How long has it been NC for you and how are you holding up?

[sick of it]

5.5 year relationship. Broken up since May. Last saw her in September. Last initiated contact Dec. 3. Last I spoke with her, Dec. 23.

So its been about 1 month of full, strict NC. No myspace, no IM, no email. I still constantly think about her, wonder about her, worry about her, care for her. but i cried and begged and pleaded so much, i cant initiate contact anymore. shes been with someone since september (kind of quick to me).

like everyone else, i have good days and bad days. currently ive been having a bad couple of days but thats been after a week of good ones.

the hard thing to realize is that ive been like this for 8 months (im not ashamed of that). i know that i truly truly loved her and would have given everything i could have to her (and i did). i feel slightly ashamed at the idea that she didnt love me the same. and that i feel duped (though i dont want to believe it) 5.5yrs is a very long time.

[nwc]

well she broke up with me about 5 weeks ago, today is 3 weeks of nc. I think of her still quite abit but without the deep pain and anger that was there in the beggining. its hard sometimes to not initiate contact but i know that its in my best interest not too. If she wants to she will, im leaving that up to her, but not dwelling on it.the hardest time for me is my drive home from work , when in the past i would be heading to see her. theres good days and bad days.......but at least its controllable and i think sticking with nc is the reason why.

[Ezydriver]

71 DAYS!! And I am starting to feel so much better, I still miss her, I can't understand it, she wasn't all that nice as a person, but for some bizarre reason I was attracted to her like no other, ever. Can't get her completely out of my head, but she is 50% out of it now. Not obsessing anymore, but still missing her somewhat. Miss her physical presence, but noticing other women now, which seemed vomit inducing and impossible just a few weeks ago!!

Steve.

[blah1234]

You know, I just noticed there are more men in this thread than women.

 

Probably because more men get dumped than women.

[trone]

I do not know how long it has been since but at least 40-45 days. It could have been even more but I heard that she was diagnosed smthng serious just called her office to leave a message very late but she picked up and did not reallt talk much.

 

Actually she also helped me maintaining NC. When we broke up, she told me that she cant see me nor she can talk to me. She did not reply to any of my emails (deleted them without reading, I can see bec we work at the same place and software let u see) &text messages. Whenever she saws me at work (huge place, happened couple times over 4 months) she looks like i am a stalker and does not even look.

 

I know that it is a way of getting over but it is so weird to me,hating that much without a reason. Why would a person do that, i dont know probably because of her issues.

[Chocolatellama]

It has been 11 days.. I have my ups and downs.. One min i can be alright.. and then i see something that reminds me of him and it hurts just like it was day 1. I have started to get really angry and have been writing all the horrible things i would like to say to him in a journal. I guess you could say i am moving forward.. very very slowly. I long for him pretty much every second of the day.. somewhere inside me longs for him all the time.

[dr strangelove]

I have had no contact with my dumbass ex for the longest months at a time.

 

I guess the last time was back in late october.. I always think I will never hear from her again. She contacts me then tells me not to contact her its pretty messed up.

 

Im going on over a year since we have broken up. I am still pretty messed up. I guess it didnt help that everything else fell apart after our break up.

 

I was doing pretty good there for a about a week and then I went on a dat on saturday and I felt so horribly out of place, I yearned for my ex.. even though she was and probably still a real nutcase she was very affectionate and a good

companion. I have to confess I pretty much felt like excusing myself and leaving .. I made the best of it I guess. I feel pretty crappy right now.

 

To top it all off I got these mysterious phone calls late at night, about a week ago. This is something she used to do, always no caller id. always late at night. Always calling more then one of my phone lines. Sometimes she would just keep calling till I answered..

 

Unfortunely she is so messed up in the head that she doesnt realize that I lost interest in ..well pretty much life day to day, and my bussiness. No she thinks its a lie I have made up.

 

Well chances are most of you are in better shape then me.

 

toodles

[jen_jen_heartbroken]

Refresh my memory, Doc Strangelove.... did you break things off, or did she? Sounds like she did. But if she did, why would she call you.... have you asked her? Was she a "nutcase" when you met her?

[Art_Critic]

Depends on the GF.. Some I'm over 20 years NC..

 

Good for me

[dr strangelove]

Refresh my memory, Doc Strangelove.... did you break things off, or did she? Sounds like she did. But if she did, why would she call you.... have you asked her? Was she a "nutcase" when you met her?

 

Hi Jen

 

I originally broke it off many times, with her refusing to break up with me. Any time she did break up with me, and there was a few she would begin contacting me after awhile, or sometimes she just told me to get lost then wondered why I wasnt contacting her.

 

I asked her once why she was contacting me, she said something like... Let me see if I can word this correctly. 'Its a gradual thing" sure, whatever you say.

 

She put up some redflags right away. But I decided to stick it out and see how it went. She acted many times like the character in how to "Lose a guy in 10 days"

Ive been thinking and wishing I was better equipped to handle her weirdness, it wasnt the best thing for me to run everytime there was a problem, but what option was I left with when at times she couldnt be reasoned with.

 

Not sure if that was her calling or someone else. I have half a mind to leave my msn on all night long and see of she messages me.

 

Timmy the tired puppy says.. breaking up is hard work! I better take a nap