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I am really tempting to e-mail my ex to say hi and how she is doing.

 

I feel like we can give this another shot....we both still see each other more than a friend!

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coasting Established Member

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If you both see other as more then a friend, why not e-mail her?

If you are trying to get over the relationship or trying to move away from it then do not send the email.

I guess to really give any advice we need to know what the story is.

Lonestar Established Member

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I am really tempting to e-mail my ex to say hi and how she is doing.

 

I feel like we can give this another shot....we both still see each other more than a friend!

 

Don't do it!! You can PM me instead.

riobikini Established Member

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PM LONESTAR, INSTEAD!!!!!

 

She's smarter, -and certainly alot nicer!

 

-Rio

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whis..

 

 

The story is long..infact very long. We have been on and off a lot. But I know she still cares a lot for me. The last time I talked to her on AIM. I told her I cant' be your friend cause I see you more than a friend. Then she said she sees me more as a friend as well.

 

Then later in the convosation, she is all flirting with me and all, telling me that she will be my maid for a hotel that I was going to stay at.

 

:( :( :( :( :( :( :(

 

 

Lone..

 

You just want to get to KNOW ME! :bunny::love: :love: :bunny:

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Lone..

 

I tried to PM you..but It won't let me, saying that I dont' have enought privaleges...

Lonestar Established Member

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PM LONESTAR, INSTEAD!!!!!

 

She's smarter, -and certainly alot nicer!

 

-Rio

 

AWww, thanks Rio. You're a babe :love:

Lonestar Established Member

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Lone..

 

I tried to PM you..but It won't let me, saying that I dont' have enought privaleges...

 

Damn, rules. Looks like I can PM you. Let's see if it works.

Lonestar Established Member

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No, I can't PM you yet, but here's what I wrote:

 

"Look, don't email the girl. You're feeling this way because those addictive feelings are creeping up on you. It feels like love, you start to rationalize all the reasons why it's okay to call, and then you take 10 steps back and contact her. I know. I've done this numerous times myself, and right now I'm fighting off the urge to email my ex letting him know of a huge lie he told me that I recently found out the truth about. It's not worth it...."

 

Anyone know how many posts one has to have in order to PM?

Lonestar Established Member

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fallenheart, you've been here since July. Contact the mods and ask them to give you PM access

slubberdegullion Established Member

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Fallen, don't send the email. Just plain don't. Trust me on this, ok? I've been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, wore the sucker threadbare.

cal gal Established Member

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Fallen,

 

It is too easy to fall back into contacting her. You may ALWAYS feel that you want to.

 

It will not help you to move forward, so go distract yourself by doing something fun.... or call a friend that is a pleasure to talk to. Or go give your cat a bath!! :)

 

 

Move forward, she is probably just dying for you to reach her so she can turn you down. Don't fall into her trap.

slubberdegullion Established Member

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go give your cat a bath!!

But remember to wear the steel gloves and chainmail armour.

lilmoma1973 Established Member

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Sorry she is being like this sounds to me that she is playing you and wants her cake and eat it too.. If you like someone you want to be with them don't get why she is acting this way.. Move on and cut your losses and find someone that doesn't play all these games.. Her loss and someone else's gain..

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fallen,

 

i am giving you this perspective after JUST talking to my ex after 3 weeks of no contact. I thought she was giving me hints. I thought she wanted to work things out as well.

 

She didn't.

 

And it rocked my world all over again. You even having contact with her right now is not good man. i suggest you go completely NC.

 

But let me tell you one good thing that happened after she made in 100% clear that she does not work things out....it gave me some sort of closure. yes it hurt, but maybe it was worth it to know that I now HAVE to move on.

 

So fallen, if youre willing to take the risk of getting hurt to either get her back, or find closure...you can ask her. But I'm just forewarning you on the risks.

Just Visiting Established Member

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aren't you the guy that was showing us how immature your ex behaves? come on....:sick:

lilmoma1973 Established Member

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fallen,

 

i am giving you this perspective after JUST talking to my ex after 3 weeks of no contact. I thought she was giving me hints. I thought she wanted to work things out as well.

 

She didn't.

 

And it rocked my world all over again. You even having contact with her right now is not good man. i suggest you go completely NC.

 

But let me tell you one good thing that happened after she made in 100% clear that she does not work things out....it gave me some sort of closure. yes it hurt, but maybe it was worth it to know that I now HAVE to move on.

 

So fallen, if youre willing to take the risk of getting hurt to either get her back, or find closure...you can ask her. But I'm just forewarning you on the risks.

 

Great post i couldn't agree more with you!! He is going to feel more hurt than he does by hearing from her.. fallen move on and find someone worthy of you !! Been where you are and i ended up hurting and feeling more pain after him telling me he didn't want me anymore.. Don't let her do that to you . Good luck

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Lone..

 

I will ask the admins to do so...and thank you, you made a lot of sense.

 

The rest of you...

 

 

I do believe what you say, but everyone is different, her and I have been through this many of times. I just don't know ..

 

I am NOT going to e-mail ..thank you all! :) But, I am still wondering if I will bring us up at all IF she IM's me... :confused:

pippen_2k Established Member

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Does she live in the same area as you?

 

If not just turn your messanger off for a few weeks.

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