lilmoma1973 Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Nur sounds to me he isn't on board with this as well as you are.. I have to wonder if he likes the physically of the relationship better than the emotionally!! keep us posted to what happens ..
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 I have to agree, the experiement really is for you, not him. By doing this experiement it's stopping the intimacy between you two. That is what makes a "romantic friendship" become a relationship. It's like you're testing HOW much he actually loves you. You say he isn't 'there' for you as much, well, friends aren't always 'there' for eachother as much as a boyfriend/girlfriend could be. Maybe you need to rethink this and talk to him about how he feels about it. His actions are showing you that he doesn't like the experiement. The bond and intimacy between us is probably about equivalent to a couple that has gone the rest of the way. Imagine how close you two will feel once you've actually made love to eachother.
Author Nur Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 I don't disagree that it's probably more for me than for him... but by learning how to meet my emotional needs, I think he'll find that I am much more enthusiastic about meeting his physical ones... So, in the long run, it's good for both of us, I think. I'll feel closer to him, and, in result, he'll end up happier because I'll be more into what he loves.
Sal Paradise Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I don't know. This seems kind of dangerous, in the sense that it could result in your feelings changing for each other. I think you could of reached your goal of having more emotional support from him without shutting him out physically. I wouldn't risk a good relationship that needs some work just to prove a point.
Author Nur Posted February 6, 2006 Author Posted February 6, 2006 Wow, that really didn't work. I must have no willpower whatsoever. What was that... two weeks? Really sad. Really, really sad. But... oh well. It was fun! I don't know... ever since he realized he was being inattentive, he's had a pretty great turnaround, and it just puts me in the mood! Last weekend we took a shower together for the first time... that was awesome. I hope he doesn't fall back into old ways! (I've been making sure to give him a lot of positive reinforcement).
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