jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 If someone gives their SO gifts, and then the OP dumps them shortly after accepting the gifts, do you think that the OP has an obligation to return them?
ddnnee Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 nah, a gift is a gift. you gave the other person your gifts... and now you expect it back... sounds like an indian giver. It is up to the other person... if they want to give it back or not.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 But don't you think it's rather deceptive and immoral to accept expensive gifts from someone you know you will dump in a week or two?
Devildog Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I don't think there is necessarily an "obligation" on the OPs part to return the gifts. But common decency should compel the person to offer to return them, especially based on the circumstances. Also, if there is some significant monetary value involved, it would appear downright greedy to keep an expensive gift received shortly before they decided to leave.
ddnnee Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 well i didn't know what an SO or OP was well ya it is immoral to accept gifts if you know you will dump then later. but that's up to the person to be moral or not. if you are the gift giver and not knowing what's going to happen, oh well. you can't really demand something back that you gave someone as a gift. long ago.... i gave my gf some gifts but i had no idea she was going to dump me. I never asked for it back, neither would i care for it. however, she did return one important gift back to me. that was nice... and i wasn't expecting it back, but it was nice to have back.
Devildog Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 well i didn't know what an SO or OP was http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80058 Try this link for an explanation on most of the abbreviations you will see here.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 Funny....the first time I think I've used an acronym here, and I start confusing people.
kitten chick Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I have a friend that does this in most of her relationships. Some of the gifts were rather expensive. It drives me nuts. I always thought it was wrong, unfair, nasty, immoral, I could keep going. Then it happened to me. I really resent him for it. You're not going to get it back so you just have to let it go or it will eat at you and make you angry. BTW, I always thought DH meant dumb husband not dear husband
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 Well, the thing is that the bastard KNOWS I can barely afford the things I gave him, but I did so because I loved him and I THOUGHT he loved me. My thoughts are that if someone accepts gifts under false pretenses, then they should give them back. I though OW meant other wife.
Devildog Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Most people think STBXW means soon to be ex wife, but when I write it it meant Skanky twit bitch ex wife, but that's just me!
bluechocolate Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Most people think STBXW means soon to be ex wife, but when I write it it meant Skanky twit bitch ex wife, but that's just me! I always thought it meant stupid b!tch ex-wife. DH - divorced husband ??? OW - other woman ?? OP - original poster ??? There was a much better list a long time ago, I think made my Tony, but new ones keep getting made all the time. If someone gives their SO gifts, and then the OP dumps them shortly after accepting the gifts, do you think that the OP has an obligation to return them? No, I don't think they have an obligation to return them. However, returning them would certainly be the right thing to do.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 No, I don't think they have an obligation to return them. However, returning them would certainly be the right thing to do. Yeah, I guess expecting someone (who treated someone else so cruelly) to do the right thing is expecting too much. Effing bastards.
Chocolatellama Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Hmm.. i saved up for weeks to buy my ex a very expensive car stereo for christmas.. he didn't get me anything and when he broke up with me, he offered to give it back but i didn't accept it.
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