somedizzywhore1804 Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 I think I can probably anticipate the responses to this question before I begin but I would really appreciate some advice. My GF left me three years ago this month. I was devestated, more than I have ever been affected by the end of a relationship before or since. I did all the classic begging, pleading, letter writing, emails, phone calls etc. All to no avail. After six months I became involved with somebody else and was with ehr for two years but throughout the relationship I still missed the ex. So now, three years later and I am still thinking about her. I was contemplating dropping her a line but it would appear she has moved. Perhaps married, I dont know. I still have her friends address and she still lives there. I was considering dropping her a line and basically saying something along these lines. 'I have no idea where 'Elisha' is, she may well be married. I would never want to complicate any relationship she may be in nor would I wish to upset her. But I would appreciate it if you would perhaps one day let her know that I was asking about her and please just tell her I am sorry. I trust you will use your better judgement as to when and where to pass on my words. If indeed there ever is a right time" Obviously I will fill the letter with a little small talk concentrating on the recipient but not too long or deep. Anyhow, thats about it really, like I say she may well be married and have children and / or perfectly happy with somebody else. If so, I sincerely wish her the best. But you never know, she may well be thinking of me? Doubtful but you never know. One of the last things she said to me was "if we are meant to be together, we will be" Obviously somebody has to initiate that, dont you think? Regards
Author somedizzywhore1804 Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 To be honest the relationship ended because,I became very depressed. We were together three years. I lost my job and various other things affected me, I lost all interest in everything. Never went out, could sense her slippin away and losing interest, didnt put a ring on her finger when she wanted me to. Became clingy,paranoid and jealous. She left me. My fault.
dprelz Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I feel bad for you dude,, I think that is the situation I'm in.. I still miss my ex and it's been 5 months and no other girls compare. It must suck to be in relationship and miss her.. I dont know why this is such a bad idea, I mean.. it's worth a try, it's not like it can get any worse. What if she wants to chat and catch up and you hit it off again, never know:o
Mrs. Fiona Shrek Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 One of the last things she said to me was "if we are meant to be together, we will be" Obviously somebody has to initiate that, don't you think? I think you have misunderstood her last remarks... You are thinking that she said, "If you love something beautiful, let it go, and if it returns... it was meant to be." I think she had more the idea of fate. Meaning that y'all would continuously bump into each other at the supermarket, movies, etc. Your love and relationship would be unavoidable, therefore "meant to be". Don't go digging up old girlfriends unless you are truly ready to embrace what their new life may be. Godspeed.
RZA-Man Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I wouldn't do it. But if finding out she's married or in a committed relationship helps you move on, then go for it. Don't have expectations though. Just because you still have feelings for her doesn't mean she'll have feelings for you.
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