Babyribs Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 In a relationship with a woman for 10 months, on new years i proposed and 3 days later things changed, she started hanging out with someone she said would be her type. we got into several fights, she defended the person, i said fine lets have an open relationship, she agreed, i met someone, i went on a date and kissed, talked to her on the phone several times. my ex got my cell bill, started calling all the numbers in it, found the number of this other woman, called, and not only did she kill what this other girl and i were having but also treats me like i am a darn lier. we were in an open relationship, now the woman i dated doesnt want anything to do with me because of my ex, hung up the phone on me and told me she doesnt want to deal with this and that it was nice knowing me, i really like her and wanted to have something more with her. my ex is treatening, doesnt even want me to go back to our place where i need to go to sleep. i dont know what to do? i want to be with this new woman and she doesnt want to be with me anymore. and i have a darn woman driving me insane in another hand. what do you guys think i should do?
PlentyLV007 Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 i dont know what to do? i want to be with this new woman and she doesnt want to be with me anymore. and i have a darn woman driving me insane in another hand. what do you guys think i should do? Wow.... I'm sorry to hear about your drama w/ the ex...I'm not going to lie, when I was paying for me ex's phone bill while we were still togheter I started seeing numbers at like 1am, 12am..like 20 min-1 hour converstiaons with the same number...so I called it but didn't get all crazy like your ex did. What can advise is move out, see if a friend can help you out till you find your own place. In regards to the new girl...I'm sorry but your ex ruined it for you. Most girls don't like the ex drama with new people they are seeing. Even if you tried to call her and explain it...I'm sure she still wouldn't want to deal with it. U should just worry about u right now and finding a new place. Get yourself settled and move on. good luck!
PlentyLV007 Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 will she contact me again? If the new girl would contact you.... I wouldn't bet on it...and from your question it seems your hoping she will. Who knows what your ex girl told her when she called her. Appereantly if she's not accepting your phone calls and she won't let you explain what does that tell you...? You were interested in her more than she was into you. If she really liked you and felt the chemistry...she would be there....but like I said..."most" women don't like to hang around the ex baggage especially if the ex is going out of her way to call her. That's not right on your EX part. Can you say psycho!
Author Babyribs Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 You're right, she wont but i will move out and wait about a month, then i will give her a call and say how sorry i am about what happened. and about my ex, YES she turned crazy
cygny Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 pardon, but how can you go from a proposal to being interested in a new woman in the space of a few weeks? it doesn't seem like your feelings were real...or at least not very deep... take some time out to process feelings and/or get in touch with them. I too would run from someone who had just proposed to someone else and could switch over to an open relationship at the drop of a hat.
Author Babyribs Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 i agree with you but i should splain, i proposed because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, she met someone and cheated, thats how the open relatinship came about just to try to at least save something. thats when i went out and met someone else.
butternutter05 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 pardon, but how can you go from a proposal to being interested in a new woman in the space of a few weeks? it doesn't seem like your feelings were real...or at least not very deep... take some time out to process feelings and/or get in touch with them. I too would run from someone who had just proposed to someone else and could switch over to an open relationship at the drop of a hat. i agree with cy. sounds way too extreme. you seem way to immature to understand how to have a real relationship. i don't think your feelings were very real either, if you just switched your affections that fast. that would make me act crazy too. in addition, it sounds like there is some low self esteem problem to make you now cling to this other girl that won't return your calls. i wouldn't call you either, with all that drama; you probably freaked her out. the responsible thing should've been trying to work things out with the girl you just proposed to.
butternutter05 Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 i agree with cy. sounds way too extreme. you seem way to immature to understand how to have a real relationship. i don't think your feelings were very real either, if you just switched your affections that fast. that would make me act crazy too. in addition, it sounds like there is some low self esteem problem to make you now cling to this other girl that won't return your calls. i wouldn't call you either, with all that drama; you probably freaked her out. the responsible thing should've been trying to work things out with the girl you just proposed to.
AJT Posted January 28, 2006 Posted January 28, 2006 I somewhat agree with butter, but the girlfriend did cheat. if my man cheated on me i would try to find cover under someone else to avoid pain.
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