Geoffrey Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 ...I have decided to seek professional counseling for myself. This is getting to be too much, I need some answers from someone who can help me get inside my own mind (not that all of you haven't!). I dwell on things that went wrong far too often during the day, and that's too long. It is beginning to take up waaaaaaay too much brain space. It is seriously holding me back. It's been almost ten weeks now since my GF and I broke up....for some very valid, psychologically sound reasons on my part....and something is still holding me back from being 100% well. Am I mourning the relationship I had with her or am I mourning the relationship I WANTED TO HAVE with her? If you think you need it....GO GET IT! It's an investment in YOU and that always pays the best dividends....
Chocolatellama Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I have also decided to get professional help.. I am finding this break up so hard to deal with and also because of a previous relationship where my boyfriend cheated on me with my guy best friend.. The pain from both of these relationship is overwhelming and i'm finding it hard to concentrate on anything. I find it hard to trust anyone, even my closest friends and because of that i find it hard to talk to people i know about my problems. So, i'm thinking that talking to someone about this will help me alot. I really hope that it will help you too.
Author Geoffrey Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 I've gone for help in the past, under VERY stressful times in my life, and it has certainly helped me understand things much better. It's time well spent. I'm looking forward to finding some answers....hope you do too. Find a good, experienced counselor who will challenge you at times. That is where the breakthroughs happen.... Do the hard work...it will be soooo worth it.
coasting Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 hey guys there is nothing wrong with getting professional help. It has been about ten weeks since my ex moved out while I was working, leaving a note on the table. At about week number two I found out he had moved in with a woman who works in the hospital with us. And yes she knew that my ex was living with me, and it just never seemed to phase her. Anyway the pain was just incredible and unbearable, so I seeked profesisional help as well as help from my primary care physician. I am not one to take medications at all but with all that had happened I wasn't able to sleep, or eat and I just could not concentrate on anything. Between the two of them I was put on an anti-depressant, as well as the counseling. All though the pain is still very deep, and gets a bit deeper everytime I see him, ecspecially if it with her, the medication has done somethingto make me be able to concentrate and do what I need to do to get through the days. I am not saying it is the cure but it definitely helps. I now swear by counseling.....Good luck and remeber we are here for you!
Author Geoffrey Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 I've been on antidepressants before. but I don't think I need them now. I fought a long battle with them and finally got free of them about two years ago. My ex GF has chosen to go off hers, with some very poor results. It was far too early for her to do that, and I wonder if it contributed to our breakup. BTW, she had another guy basically "moved in" with her before I was completely moved out. If THAT isn't a slap in the face, the I don't know what is...right now she's literally outta her mind with depression and many other complex issues....she would definitely benefit from counseling....but won't go, won't face her issues, won't work on herself AT ALL. Just runs away and hides from the pain. It's so sad, she never used to be like this. But I AM GOING.
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