Mr B Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 I could really do with some advice on what to do!! I have been with my partner for 5 and a half years. For the first years our relationship was fun, the sex was great, I loved her very much and I was really happy. We've been living together for 3 or so years and we also have a little boy of 15 months (who i love dearly) Our relationship started to become a bit stale just before she became pregnant.. we stopped doing as much together and didn't make as much of an effort. Now we hardly do anything together at all (as a couple anyway) which I appreciate is harder when you have a small child. She has put weight on which she hasn't attempted to lose since the birth (even though she keeps saying she will because she hates it), our sex life is awful and once a week if I'm lucky and most of the time I have to harass her or keep asking! Sad I know!! (she also now just lays there and puts in no effort) and I don't feel we have alot in common anymore. WE have no shared interests outside the house and family. She only gets dressed up for work, never me, hardly ever kisses me either (properly anyway - I do get the odd peck now and again) I feel that now we're togther she thinks that she doesn't have to make an effort anymore and I'm starting to get very resentful about it. we've talked about this situation several times and we always come to the conclusion that we need to sort it out and that she wants to exercise etc to get her self esteme back... BUT it never ever happens.. with or without encouragement... she always find reasons why things haven't improved. What can I do... I'm not happy in the relationship. I don't want to cheat but I'm starting to feel that I don't want to live out my days like this (I'm only 31 and she is younger) Any advice?
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