jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 What does love mean to you? When someone says "I love you" to another person does that mean "I love you right now, but not necessarily later"? When you accept another person's love do you have any responsibility for that love? Do you feel like it's okay to toss it back when it's no longer convenient for you? Is "I love you" only valid when things are perfect? What about during difficult times?
loony Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Stop asking such idle questions and join me me in my plans to become a happy nun with a great complexion. It's never to late to start taking care of your skin. Oh, and as Jesus's brides we also don't have to look for a husband anymore. Yay!
lindya Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 What does love mean to you? When someone says "I love you" to another person does that mean "I love you right now, but not necessarily later"? Said to me in the context of a romantic relationship, I see it as meaning "You're my special person. There's a part of my inner world - a Garden of Eden - that only you and I inhabit. You're my woman." Of course, external factors (and sometimes other people) have a habit of breaking down the walls to that little Garden of Eden and trashing it. Or your lover can decide to cast you out of it. Then you have to start cultivating your own little secret garden, so that when you need to escape from the world you're escaping to a nice, therapeutic place rather than to a dark pit of depression.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 Stop asking such idle questions and join me me in my plans to become a happy nun with a great complexion. It's never to late to start taking care of your skin. Oh, and as Jesus's brides we also don't have to look for a husband anymore. Yay! that would necessitate believing that God isn't some cruel prank.
loony Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 that would necessitate believing that God isn't some cruel prank. God is an old grumpy man, what do you expect?
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 If God = Love, then neither exist.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 When someone says "I love you" to another person does that mean "I love you right now, but not necessarily later"? it depends... When you accept another person's love do you have any responsibility for that love? sometimes.... Do you feel like it's okay to toss it back when it's no longer convenient for you? it depends... Is "I love you" only valid when things are perfect? it depends...
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 Thanks for such a clear answer, alphamale. It all makes effing sense now.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Thanks for such a clear answer, alphamale. It all makes effing sense now. my point JJHB was that love will never be clear or make sense. thats what makes it unique. its a mystery wrapped in an enigma.
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 my point JJHB was that love will never be clear or make sense. thats what makes it unique. its a mystery wrapped in an enigma. bite me.
loony Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 When someone says "I love you" to another person does that mean "I love you right now, but not necessarily later"? That depends on the person and what kind of person that is depends on your choice and therefore is your responsibility. When you accept another person's love do you have any responsibility for that love? Do you feel like it's okay to toss it back when it's no longer convenient for you? Sure I feel responsible for it. At the same time I hope that it won't become a cage that will prevent me from finding my happiness somewhere else when I realize that this person is not right for me. Is "I love you" only valid when things are perfect? What about during difficult times? The greatest thing would be if they stayed with you also during the hard times. It's important to be picky so you will not let yourself get blinded by their behavior during the smooth and happy times.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 my point JJHB was that love will never be clear or make sense. thats what makes it unique. its a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Exactly we don't know what love brings us and we have to take that chance !! It is better to love and lost than to never love at all... Love hurts and that is just the chance we take Jen ..Not judging you at all cause i have been cheated on with my h and boy has it been hard to let go but you do and make it work as best and if it don't atleast you tried ..
blind_otter Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 its a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Mystery wrapped in an enigma drizzled with fantasy and garnished with emotional baggage. Is that from Seinfeld? Love is great when you are in it/ have it and s***e when you aren't it in/don't have it. And a lot of people like to toss the term around like it's nothing. Which is frustrating to no end.
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 What does love mean to you? When you accept another person's love do you have any responsibility for that love? Do you feel like it's okay to toss it back when it's no longer convenient for you? Awwww Jen. Another big hug ((( ))). To me, love is not just a fuzzy feeling, it's a commitment. Like any commitment, there will be good times and bad times. Overall it's good, but there will be times when you have to grit your teeth and make an effort. No pain, no gain. But some people have bought into today's consumerist myth that it must always be fun. That's not love - that's selfishness masquerading as love. To quote the little prince: "you are responsible for that which you have tamed".
lindya Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 But some people have bought into today's consumerist myth that it must always be fun. That's not love - that's selfishness masquerading as love. Or it's transient, very fragile love that ends with the words "I'm bored of you now" - or the same message expressed more gently. That's all the love (if you can call it that) that some people are capable of. Who do you feel sorrier for....them, or the people they hurt? It's a tough call imo.
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Who do you feel sorrier for....them, or the people they hurt? It's a tough call imo. Good question... 1
kitten chick Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Love is a farce. It doesn't exist. And I feel sorrier for the people they hurt.
a4a Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 I do not think that love is always meant to last forever. There are certainly rules that apply to it. In general, expectations that come from your partner in order for them to stay in love with you. If you break these rules good chance you may no longer be loved. Right or wrong on the part of either party does not really matter. It boils down to expectations not being fulfilled by one or both people. :confused: I think it is ok to fall out of love.... part of life and growth. I think love is really how you feel about yourself when you are with a person. a4a- time to take another pill
alphamale Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 I think love is really how you feel about yourself when you are with a person. thanx for sharing your thoughts A4a...now i've got the warm fuzzies 1
a4a Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 thanx for sharing your thoughts A4a...now i've got the warm fuzzies Screw the warm fuzzies....... not what it was meant to be. For example if you had a hot lady that was telling you that your the man of all men and met your house keeping and sexual needs, and dug threesomes you would probably feel like you were in love You fall in love because it makes you feel good. a4a- madly in love with Alpha
Lonestar Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 For example if you had a hot lady that was telling you that your the man of all men and met your house keeping and sexual needs, and dug threesomes you would probably feel like you were in love How did you know about this... ...has Alpha been running his mouth about me??? This was supposed to be a secret. I swear you can't trust men for nothing.
a4a Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 How did you know about this... ...has Alpha been running his mouth about me??? This was supposed to be a secret. I swear you can't trust men for nothing. Actually Alpha and I were trying to figure out if you liked threesomes or not. I guess you are "IN"? We will meet you tonight and work this all out. a4a
alphamale Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 For example if you had a hot lady that was telling you that your the man of all men and met your house keeping and sexual needs, and dug threesomes you'd have an easier time finding bigfoot...
Lonestar Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 you'd have an easier time finding bigfoot... No I found bigfoot. He's an ex of mine. Hairy MFer that he was. I swear he would take his shirt off and I'd say "are you going to remove that sweater too?" 1
a4a Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 you'd have an easier time finding bigfoot... Well silly boy....... some of us do those things..... and we pay our own bills.........however we still need to be tamed a bit by strong, willful, masterful man. a4a- just needs a firm hand on her backside
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