cal gal Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Yep, My soon to be ex husband is taking our planned 20 year anniversay vacation to Hawaii. He's meeting his family there for a wedding. We were to stay an extended period of time after the gathering. He is leaving tomorrow. He has spent most of the last week crying and asking me to get back, and as much as I will always love him for a variety of reasons, I can't continue to live with a man that had the perfect life and was never satisfied or faithful. I totally appreciate such wonderful humor and banter tonight (I always love the sex talk too) as it has been a big help in keeping my mind off of all this. I have been so good at not contacting him in any regard over the past 4-5 months since I asked him to move. He calls my kids directly and I have told them to love him and see him as much as they might wish. So, I am sure to be a bit more melancholy than the past few months - any advice on how not to be too sad about the upcoming 20 year mark?
Becoming Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Yeah, this one's a big day that could hurt. Can you turn it into an occasion for a party with folks you'll enjoy spending that time with instead? Come up with something creative that acknowledges what is so you're meeting it head on without sweeping the hurt into some place where it'll just grow--maybe a substitute Hawaiian luau or something. Or something better like why cats are better than men theme party.
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