Author serial muse Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 I've got the problem of most men in my age group and older not being attractive to me. I'm sure there are exceptions but i'd like a man about 5 years younger. It's a better match in terms of outlook on life, the way I look at it. Most men my age are way too settled. I've never really settled down, although I was married for over 10 years. Instead I've kept pushing myself, learning new things, travelling and growing. And I'm also very involved with youth culture. I look much younger than my age (10-15 years younger). I have the problem of alot of men on the street being attracted to me--the younger ones generally too immature, the older ones too settled, and the ones in the age group I relate to are either married or looking for someone younger (because of the kids thing i suppose). Sounds like you and I have a lot in common, cygny. Regarding what RP said - it's true that age may take its toll. But I still think expectation takes the largest toll of all. People have it in their heads that a certain thing is true, and they don't want to see beyond it (e.g. at the magical age of 35, all women turn into pumpkins). Individuality? What individuality? But I suppose that's a weeding-out process for me, too - anyone who thinks that way just isn't going to be very interesting to me.
dgiirl Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 I'm 31, and i like video games In some ways I feel immature for my age, in others I think i suit my age just fine. I find that there are two types of 30-something year olds. Those that still feel 20, others that have settled down and like to discuss world events lol I think you just have to keep searching for the ones who are like YOU. I put my profile up on a dating site and got a lot of winks from all sorts of ages, 24-40. 40 year olds creep me out tho. No offense to anyone in that age group, but being 31 and being with someone 10 years older or 10 years younger isnt my thing. I want to date someone that is in my peer group BUT also acts like me. Mind you I look young for my age. The other day the bank teller thought i was 16 lol
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 I guess I'm lucky that I'm a thirtysomething who gets mistaken for a 24 year old all the time (not one wrinkle on this face). Too bad I just can't leave age off an internet ad and let the men guess.
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 When I divorced at age 48 people seems to expect me to evetually trade-in the 43-year old ex on two 22-year olds. Decidedly not in my plans. At age 50 I married a woman who was 48 and that was and remains just perfect. She and I were raised during the same times, listened to the same music, lived through the same historical events and have plenty to talk about without having to explain or define. Pure heaven! I'm sure it bothered the ex a bit that I married someone older than she is but not my problem.
loony Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 When I divorced at age 48 people seems to expect me to evetually trade-in the 43-year old ex on two 22-year olds. Decidedly not in my plans. At age 50 I married a woman who was 48 and that was and remains just perfect. At least one good guy exists.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Yeah, and of course he's taken. I get the crap that the bottom that no one else wanted.
loony Posted January 27, 2006 Posted January 27, 2006 Yeah, and of course he's taken. I get the crap that the bottom that no one else wanted. He is too old for you anyway. See your breakup as a journey to your true self. You are not your true self otherwise he wouldn't have been able to treat you so badly, if you were centered in yourself you would have kicked his ass out before.
RecordProducer Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 I'm sure it bothered the ex a bit that I married someone older than she is but not my problem.Actually it would have bothered her if you married a young girl, because then she would have felt old (and worthless)!
Curmudgeon Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 Hadn't thought about that. But then again, it might have made me feel old and worthless too!
RecordProducer Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Hadn't thought about that. But then again, it might have made me feel old and worthless too! Hmmm.. they say that when you're with someone younger, you feel younger too. I like older guys (my husband is 18 years older, my ex-husband was 12 years older); I feel "at home" with older people. I can't say that I like anything that is typical for age 30, I don't even know what is typical. My husband and I don't feel any difference due to age, but I agree on the premise that people should have similar interests which might differ accodring to their age. My husband is a kid at heart, very energetic and sexy, plus I admire his wisdom and mature self-confidence that come with years. I on the other hand am a bit old-fashioned in many ways.
jerbear Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Even now I prefer older women. my range is 10 years younger than my mom whos is now 50. I for sure DO NOT WANT ANOTHER MOM! Already got one and will inherit one, oneday. That is all I need, 3 moms! (wife, mom, mother in law) My love interests if you can call her that is a little over 9 years older than me. I met her when she was 35 and I was 25. I chased her ever since then, knocking each barrier down and now it comes down to age. We are now in NC because of that. She said I was the only young one to really chase her this long, able to be by her side, gave her confidence to start a business, be her knight in shinning armour blah blah, more history of this in another thread (Breakups and thread name is NC Predicament) She once said she would marry the one she can't live without. I said I was that guy and she said no more than friendship feelings, preferred older men; and for me to be myself. I hate it when you "go to work, and the plumber takes care of your wife" Her new guy is 12 years older and was her carpenter contractor. Plus he was in and out of her life around holidays. Pisses me off that she kept it hidden. She called next day asking for help I blew her off. She says I am deeper in her life and needed more than she realized. I said to her, guess that answers your question of who you can't live without. When you make a decision, give me a call.
mental_traveller Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Younger women have better-looking bodies & faces, in general. They're also obviously able to go longer before becoming infertile. Those are two major reasons I guess. Given the choice, all other things being equal, would you rather have an 21 year old's physique or a 60 year old's? Would you rather a woman can give birth or not (assuming you want kids)? It's obvious.
mental_traveller Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 She called next day asking for help I blew her off. She says I am deeper in her life and needed more than she realized. I said to her, guess that answers your question of who you can't live without. When you make a decision, give me a call. Thumbs up! I have a feeling you'll come out the winner in this situation.
jerbear Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Younger women have better-looking bodies & faces, in general. They're also obviously able to go longer before becoming infertile. Those are two major reasons I guess. Given the choice, all other things being equal, would you rather have an 21 year old's physique or a 60 year old's? Would you rather a woman can give birth or not (assuming you want kids)? It's obvious. Just THIS scenario at this time, I'll choose the 21 year old over the 60 year old. Plus 60 is way beyond my range, she is older than my mom which is just "NO!" It is true that younger women tend to have better-looking bodies & faces in general. But mentally well a 30 or even a 40 year old is more mature and has a better idea of what she wants. 60 to me is just not for me.
Author serial muse Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 Younger women have better-looking bodies & faces, in general. They're also obviously able to go longer before becoming infertile. Those are two major reasons I guess. Given the choice, all other things being equal, would you rather have an 21 year old's physique or a 60 year old's? Would you rather a woman can give birth or not (assuming you want kids)? It's obvious. It is, huh? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=657371#post657371 ...huh. That "looks" thing only goes for men, then? 1
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