Stong Girl Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I called myself a strong girl that is what I need to be right now but i am afraid i am far from being one. I have been married for 8 years, I have two daughers one 4,5 years old and the little one is just 13 months old. My husband has been cheating me now I believe since our engagement. He is always after out of marriage exicetements, 2 days ago, I happened to read his messages to other women, he is patheticly trying to put them in bed, telling them, everyone of them, she is the hottest lady on earth, she has the most beautiful lips that need his kissing... I hate him, I wanna get rid of him ASAP, but I left my job last year after our daughter was born, he is paying every bill, other than that he is using every opportunity to degrade me, he even told me that I am just a liability.And YES sometimes he hits me. Scumbag. Now He is in another city for work, I told him that is it, I decided to leave and i feel free like bird, He does not need to apologize for any of his wrong doings bec. it is not gonna make any difference, I am very happily decided to leave. The problem is I donot know how. No money np cash, no job with 2 young kids just tell me how.I guess I can ask him out, and live the house with kids for a while, but I cant pay for the expenses this is a very big house. Besides i donot wanna live in this house, I wanna start a completely new life. Please tell me what can i do, when he is back to home he will beg for forgiveness i know that, but I cant believe him anymore I already over-believed him for years. He cheated on me when I am pregnant with his kids...He is the lowest of the low.
Becoming Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Yeah, Strong Girl! You are doing the right thing to leave him, and just making that decision when you are in such a predicament with little kids is so hard. You are strong, and you will make it, but you need some help right now. Contact your local domestic violence center NOW. Ask to speak with a counseler, not some crisis line volunteer, but a real counselor. Tell her/him your situation and ask for help. They can find you a place to live that's safe, child care, a job, and much-needed deprogramming from all the mental abuse. You can also contact a local church and ask if the pastor knows of anyone good with room to take you in, but this is a long shot. You really need to go to a domestic violence/abuse center. Make a plan and keep to it. Plan on leaving well before he comes home, and he'll probably come back early just to keep playing the mind games. Get evidence of the affairs for the lawyer and find a shark. Make him pay for all he's done. Blessings!
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