FatChick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Background: I met this wonderful guy last August and we instantly became friends. In December I decided to tell him I enjoyed his company and wanted to become more-than-friends and hopefully form some sort of dating relationship. He seemed enthused and we set up a date. All seemed to be well. I have went to his house and he's came to mine. We've went to dances together and hung around in various places. We've went out to eat and went to see movies. Nothing seems wrong as of yet, right? The problem arises: He never calls me. Never. His last relationship was 3 years ago and so was mine so we're both a little behind on things. He has bluntly said he wants to take things slowly--which is understandable because his ex-wife used to beat on him and things so it makes sense he doesn't want to rush things like they did. I have told him I'm getting mixed signals from him--he says he likes me and all but does not initiate contact with me first at all. If we are both in one area together he will not even say hi until I do. He will not call unless he is "calling me back" from having to hang up on me. I get the impression that he is not very interested after all. Am I wrong to think this is a bunch of crap? That he really has no interest in me? He's told me I'm beautiful and such so he *seems* to be attracted to me. We've kissed (oo big deal -.-) and what-not but still no call. I am currently in college (as is he) and am staying with my mother until next spring...she attempts to give me advice but her way seems so...rude. She says to call him and say, "Listen, Jack, if you're not interested in me then I need to know because I don't like being led on. You've given me mixed signals and are making me feel like I'm being too pushy. Do you want to date me or don't you?" Which I guess I should be forward about the situation but I don't know. Advice on getting the guy to come out of his shell? I know he's had it rough with all of his exs (every single one of them have cheated on him and his ex-wife, who also cheated, was very abusive), but there's no reason why to totally ignore me...is there? I mean, the man is 30 years old...does he honestly not know how to act? Advice...any...please!?
bluechocolate Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Advice...any...please!? You've let this go on for five months, he knows you're into him by now. Stop calling him & stop setting up dates. If he's interested he'll call you. Honestly.
Forever Searching Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Advice...any...please!? You've let this go on for five months, he knows you're into him by now. Stop calling him & stop setting up dates. If he's interested he'll call you. Honestly. Couldn't have said it any better!!!!:
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