fallenheart45 Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 So after my ex-gf broke up with me, I have NOT STARTED CONTACT first with her at ALL! She will IM me first on instant messenger, whatever, so I just reply to her questions. Nuff said. Anyway we were talking online the other night and she started to tell me that I was bigger *more muscle" than the current ex boy friend she dated after me, I was like "cool" . And that is all I said Then she says... "do you want to see a picture of me and him, so you can see that you are bigger than him and make ya feel better? And don't worry..me and him are just friends, there is nothing going on with us" I said... "No its cool...its alright" W00T! as much as I wanted to see her...I rejected =) I feel some respect for that!
slubberdegullion Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Seems pretty clear that she's trying to get you jealous. Why she'd be doing that is anyone's guess, but I suspect it's a bit of a power play on her part.
Lishy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 She is SO trying to make you jealous! You are doing the right thing - Try not even answering her next time! She seems a tad immature hon - Way to go honey I know it is hard and you are doing GREAT! Keep it up!
Author fallenheart45 Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 It means a lot for me cause its sooooooooooo hard! Oh, she was also asking me if I thought some single female friends of mine were attractive to me or not. And she wanted to know if she thought that they were pretty or not? and I said ... "uh..I guess so, I don't know, I don't know her very well" then she said " "why don't you hook up with her" I didn't respond.....she then said "JUST KIDDING...I wanted to see what you would say!" So its REALLY hard for me, it seems she wants to know my thoughts on other girls..like she wants me to tell her how much I love her, and how beautiful she is to me..yada yada yada =\
kitten chick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 WTF? How old is this girl? It's the behavior I would expect from a 14 year old. And if you guys are 14 then all I can tell you is that it gets better. So I guess this means you're free now to move on to Brittanyjean?
Author fallenheart45 Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 roflmfao!!!! DO I LOOK LIKE I'M 14???? lol! Naw, I'm 23, she is 22. But for real, I know she still wants my eyes on her..even if she doesn't want her eyes on me
In Sync Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 This is not meant to be an insult but I tend to agree with kitten chick, it's the exchange that two 14 years would have and quite frankly having worked with teenagers, even that exchange is somewhat juvenile. I commend you for noy buying into her silly bait, but really if that's the best she can offer in conversation do you really need to hear from her? Block the IM, and if you choose to engage in contact with her, be direct. Ask her 'why are you telling me this crap. I'm not jealous, so what's your point?'
Author fallenheart45 Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 hmmmmmm... Good insight! and I don't engage...all I said was.. "its cool, its alright" meaning no. and that was it, if she said something else..I repiled kindly. Kill them with kindness I always say. I"m not a D ICk! I respond nicely, that is it! But why does she bother to talk to me and say these things if she doesn't want to be with me, other wise she would be.
kitten chick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 But why does she bother to talk to me and say these things if she doesn't want to be with me, other wise she would be. EGO. It's that simple. Don't let her use you to feed her ego. You were part of her life though and she probably does miss that even if she doesn't want to be with you anymore.
In Sync Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 hmmmmmm... Good insight! and I don't engage...all I said was.. "its cool, its alright" meaning no. and that was it, if she said something else..I repiled kindly. Kill them with kindness I always say. I"m not a D ICk! I respond nicely, that is it! But why does she bother to talk to me and say these things if she doesn't want to be with me, other wise she would be. NO CONTACT is not equivalent to being a "D ICK". Nor would I suggest being that way to anyone, much less to an exgf. There is a myth that if you don't respond to silly conversation that is 'not being nice?' I have never understood that logic. I believe in being, courteous, respectful and nice, but I also believe I can choose if I want to parttake in a conversation that is silly or not. Is she being kind when she is attempting to manipulate the conversation by trying to provoke jealousy. If you care about her then have a real conversation, cut the high school banter and see if there is a chance. If there is none, I ask why parttake in being glib to her nonsense "bait." Ask her what the deal is? Put her on the spot. Why guess, ask her..do you want to get together with me or not?
bendit Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 why do so many muscle guys have girl trouble? ;-)
CaliGuy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 roflmfao!!!! DO I LOOK LIKE I'M 14???? lol! Naw, I'm 23, she is 22. But for real, I know she still wants my eyes on her..even if she doesn't want her eyes on me Really? I would have guessed she was 12 at the way she talks.
CaliGuy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 why do so many muscle guys have girl trouble? ;-) Steroids, haha. Sorry dude, not saying the OP is taking them, but there's much more to a man than his body size. Yes, we know women love men with big muscles and men love women with big fake hooters. Once the initial infatuation is past and you get to know the person, you realize there's much more a person than the sum of their body parts.
kitten chick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 women love men with big muscles Speak for yourself. I hate big muscles.
CaliGuy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Speak for yourself. I hate big muscles. Let me rephrase. "Most women", not all And I could care less about the size of a woman's chest. I prefer slender women with long legs but you can't build them. Has to come from God
kitten chick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Let me rephrase. "Most women", not all And I could care less about the size of a woman's chest. I prefer slender women with long legs but you can't build them. Has to come from God That's fine cause I hate slender women with long legs too. just kidding, i love everyone yeah right
Author fallenheart45 Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Nice guys! Yeah. I know she can be immature. But I am acting cool. I dont' go along with it...TRUST ME! BTW! I don't do roids! I just eat and work out REAL WELL! Also she will just randomly IM to say hi...and last night for example. She the first IM she IM's is ... "I'm tired" ...... oooooooo...kkkkkkk....makes no sense!
Lishy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 She is playing silly games honey ...... And you replying means you are playing the game with her, whatever you answer! She wants attention. She MAY want you back but who knows! All I know for sure is that she wants to know she could get you back if she wanted to. Ignore her IMs is my advice. 1
Lonestar Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 fallenheart45, you are HOT! You don't by chance live near CT, do you? I'll make you forget about your ex. I promise
Lishy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 fallenheart45, you are HOT! You don't by chance live near CT, do you? I'll make you forget about your ex. I promise Hands off ........ He's MINE!!!! :love:
Lishy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I dont really go for muscley men! (is that how you spell it?) But I could make an exception!!!!! Ps (Only joking Slubsy, your the man for me)
Lonestar Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Told ya, haha. Women love muscles. Love them. I'm in heaven at the gym... probably why I go there so much.
kitten chick Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Love them. I'm in heaven at the gym... probably why I go there so much. Maybe that's my problem. I go to a classes full of women and when I'm on the machines it's all muscle guys. No wonder I don't like the gym. BTW you two, don't make me send you to the pedaphile thread.
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