Phily Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Does it matter and should I worry about and ask my MW whether or not she is having sex with her husband. According to her they haven't been intimate since May 2005. We've been together for 11 months now... Any one have advice for me? Maybe from your experiences? Is is plausible that they haven't had sex for that long? Thanks a lot!
BUTAFLY Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 yes its possible and likely they are not having sex. woman are much different from men whereas we tend to put our heart and energy into one man and with that comes the intimacey. I'm sure her husband feels the distance and coldness and lack of atraction towards him and probabely suspects something if he doensnt already know. You can not hide feelings no matter how hard you try.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Yes, it is very possible that your MW is not having sex with her husband if she is in love with you. I am in love with OM, and I find it repulsive to kiss my husband even. I don't want to be touched by my husband either. We are living in the same house for the sake of the kids. It is very sad, really, but I don't know know what else to do.
sylviaguardian Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 It's plausible but given the circumstances, the possibility that she is lying to you as much as him is highly probable. Does it matter and should I worry about and ask my MW whether or not she is having sex with her husband. According to her they haven't been intimate since May 2005. We've been together for 11 months now... Any one have advice for me? Maybe from your experiences? Is is plausible that they haven't had sex for that long? Thanks a lot!
luckygirl Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Been here, done that! I had an affair with my current boyfriend. We were having an affair seven months before I left my now ex-husband, and eight or nine months before he left his now ex-wife. As soon as the affair began, I honestly could not have relations with my husband anymore. I was in love with someone else. He repulsed me and made me sick. I kind of felt like I was cheating on my affair. However, he on the other hand, continued to have relations with his wife up until the separation. He said it was because he did not want her to get suspicious. I do not get it! It makes me sick to think about sharing him! I do not know how or why he continued to have relations with wife? I hope someone can explain this phenomena! How and why men continue to have relations with their wives while having an affair with someone else and women can't!
whichwayisup Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I hope someone can explain this phenomena! How and why men continue to have relations with their wives while having an affair with someone else and women can't! Because (some) men can detach and it becomes just SEX. No emotions, no love, just sex. Most women can't do that. Though, I think in his case he may have had feelings for her still. The attraction just doesn't go away and the fact they were married still, he still probably cared about her. Sorry, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but that could have been the case.
Author Phily Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 I appreciate the advice from all of you and telling me your own personal experiences. This website is wonderful and thank you all again!
kpin124 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 i would like to say being a mw in a relationship right now with a mm that i am still sleeping with my h. so i think that a w could most deffinently be sleeping with her h at the same time. for me i truly love my h and would never think of not sleeping with him but the relationship with the omm i do not feel at this time is love it is fun and we both enjoy it very much. the time that i am with him i don't have to think about being a wife or a mom or doing house work i just feel free. but when i am with my h i feel that i am his w and we are suspose to have sex and we both enjoy it so why not. plus i don't want to raise any red flags with him and by me not having sex with him that would deffinently do that.
BUTAFLY Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 i would like to say being a mw in a relationship right now with a mm that i am still sleeping with my h. so i think that a w could most deffinently be sleeping with her h at the same time. for me i truly love my h and would never think of not sleeping with him but the relationship with the omm i do not feel at this time is love it is fun and we both enjoy it very much. the time that i am with him i don't have to think about being a wife or a mom or doing house work i just feel free. but when i am with my h i feel that i am his w and we are suspose to have sex and we both enjoy it so why not. plus i don't want to raise any red flags with him and by me not having sex with him that would deffinently do that. your not in love so its different....When you give your heart to someone you want to share intimacy with that one person also.
scarletletter Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Yes, it is very possible to live with your husband and not have sex with him. I am living proof of that. I am the ow in a relationship with a MM and I have not slept with my husband in a year or maybe longer. We both know that the intimacy is gone and he no longer expects it. Just going through the motions to keep the daughter happy right now. Not the best situation to be in but that's just the way it is. I have no sexual desire for him whatsoever and I have a good idea that the feeling is mutual.
kpin124 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 i said that i am in love with my husband but not the om..... is that not possible ?? well i think it is i truley love my husband however the om gives me things that my husband does not such as attention, he listens to me and is very easy to talk to.... i have been with my husband for 10 years and we all know after being with someone for that long sometimes we let the little things slip like paying attention to each other and just sitting and talking that is one of the main reasons a relationship started with this omm... but i will honestly say i am not in "love" with omm i do not want to leave my husband and i don't want him to leave his wife....
Sami_D Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 I am sure that with or without love, with or without another person being involved, being in a relationship with someone and not having sex with them for a long time is ENTIRELY possible. I have had one relationship where there was no sex for 5 YEARS, and another where there was limited sex for 2 YEARS. So yes, it is possible. When you don't want to have sex with someone even when it's 'on offer' possibly... it can 'not happen'. Just because you're sharing a bed with someone, doesn't mean the penis enters the vagina. Whatever SOME people maintain. 1
silktricks Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 We both know that the intimacy is gone and he no longer expects it. Just going through the motions to keep the daughter happy right now. Not the best situation to be in but that's just the way it is. I have no sexual desire for him whatsoever and I have a good idea that the feeling is mutual. Why don't you get a divorce and go on with your lives? Staying together for your daughter's sake doesn't seem good for any of you, including your daughter.
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