Ceridwin13 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I've got a bit of a problem, so I want some opinions...I've been dating the same guy for about a year now, and for the most part all is well. The only problem is this: 2 of my past "flings" are part of my circle of friends. Both guys have girlfriends, both of which are serious and long term (they also have been with their girlfriends for at least a year). Both girls know that I had a brief past with their guys, and everyone is OK with all of us being friends now. Both guys are very happy with their girlfriends, and their girlfriends don't mind that we're friends; in fact I'm buddies with both these girls. But my guy can't cope with being around any guy that I ever slept with in the past. He refuses to go out and hang out with my friends because he can't be in the same room as anyone I have a "past" with. I think this is ridiculous. Am I crazy, or is he?
Groovy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 That's a tough one. I think it is normal for a guy to not like you hanging around guys you have slept with. But I don't know that I would avoid being friends with these people just because of his jealousy. Have you talked to him about it? Maybe when you are in a group you can reassure him that your his? Just a big hug and kiss for all your ex's to see:)
barfool Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I think that being friends with past flings is fine. If your current guy is not comfortable with it then you will need to respect that. Perhaps when he feels more secure in your relationship then he will be ready to hang out with whomever, whether it be a past fling or someone else.
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