a4a Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 The candy is on the shelves, the stuffed pink and red monkeys with little stuffed hearts crammed in 2 feet thick on shelves as well. Cardboard hearts with I LOVE YOU hang from store ceilings and plenty of encouragement surrounds us to participate in this Hallmark Card Holiday. http://www.techdirect.com/valentine/origin.html (several interpetations of the origin of V-Day Are you participating this year? Do you have expectations this year from you SO for V Day? Do you plan to do something for your SO this year? a4a- one day I will grow up......but until then......
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Nope. Boyfriend just dumped me. This, of course, after I already ordered a custom-made, non-returnable V-day gift for him. He's the third guy to dump me right before the "happy" day.
slubberdegullion Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it 1
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I think, for the most part - it sets up false expectations and reinforces an artificial sense of 'romance', all done for the sake of companies making a buck off of it. Women are conditioned by the media and society to expect the grand gestures on that day and men are conditioned to make them. Don't get me wrong - it can also be a very nice time between couples - making for a nice 'date night', but shouldn't every day have at least some of that in it? Why all the emphasis on that one day? Money. Plain and simple. I guess women get Valentines Day, and men get that Steak and Blowjob day I've heard about. Heh. What will I do? Not sure yet. I usually get Little B. some stuff and make it a day for her. Candy, a stuffed animal - take her out to dinner. She makes me a card and buys me a little box of candy or something like that. It'll be a 'mom and Little B. day' most likely. My SO and I have been together now for 6 months, and he likes making little sweet gestures so he may get me a little something, but I don't really have anything grand in mind, or expect something grand. I expect I'll get him a little something too, most likely a gift card from this one store he likes or something like that along with a card. Who knows. I'll do like I always have and play that day by ear. What happens, happens. What doesn't, doesn't. No matter. 2
kitten chick Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I'd rather get flowers, candy, or a card any other day of the year. Valentine's day is Corporate America's way of sucking another buck out of us. IMO, giving presents on Valentines day is a meaningless gesture, it's something people feel they "have" to do rather than want to do.
Author a4a Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 So far that is 4 posts that have the ERGLE BERGLE GAK attitude on V-day I am wondering how many participate just because they feel forced to do so. a4a
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I've never been forced to participate. I always get dumped before I have the opportunity to give or receive tokens of affection on Valentine's Day.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I love Valentine's Day but generally don't do much for it cause it falls in the week ,and it tends to interfere with h 's band practice so we celebrate it on the weekend .. I love to get my daughter her Valentine cards to give out !!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I love to get my daughter her Valentine cards to give out !! Yeah, it's good for young girls to feel the powerful pain of rejection as early on as possible. It toughens them up for what's to come.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Yeah, it's good for young girls to feel the powerful pain of rejection as early on as possible. It toughens them up for what's to come. My daughter isn't too much interested in boys she thinks kissing is gross and says men are jerks .. Guess she sees how my ss and h are around here!! I guess kids learn what they see..
blind_otter Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 The last time I celebrated V-day I was in middle school. I refuse to celebrate it. It has no historical basis that I am aware of. At least Christmas has the whole winter solstice thing going for it. But I don't celebrate Christmas either. I actually celebrate no holidays.
slubberdegullion Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I actually celebrate no holidays. Even Groundhog Day?? (not the movie, but the event) You're missing out, otter! There's nothing like an official day of celebration in honour of a hibernating rodent!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 My daughter isn't too much interested in boys she thinks kissing is gross and says men are jerks Smart kid you raised there! Not only will she probably avoid getting mono and the flu, but she'll avoid a broken heart.
bluechocolate Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Are you participating this year? Do you have expectations this year from you SO for V Day? I haven't participated in Valentine's Day since I was a wee kiddie in school & everyone used to give them out - (do they still make those sheets of perforated Valentines?). And I have no expectations.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Smart kid you raised there! Not only will she probably avoid getting mono and the flu, but she'll avoid a broken heart. LOL!! I just hope she don't feel this way always .. All men aren't the same there are some good ones out there and i try and tell her that all the time..She tells me that she is going to live with me forever which is fine !!
blind_otter Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Even Groundhog Day?? (not the movie, but the event) You're missing out, otter! There's nothing like an official day of celebration in honour of a hibernating rodent! There isn't really a change of seasons in the swamp, m'love. The groundhogs have all been eaten by the alligators.
Lonestar Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I celebrate it with my kids, and buy them some candy, a card, and a little present. If i can't say "I love you" to a boyfriend, saying it to my children is one step better. I also plan on buying myself a present. Self-love works wonders.
Lonestar Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I actually celebrate no holidays. Halloween? Ya gotta love that holiday.
kitten chick Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I don't celebrate holidays either B_O. Only the ones my family makes me celebrate...even those are done begrudgingly.
blind_otter Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Nope. No Halloween. No Christmas. My family doesn't do turkey day any more (we used to). I also don't watch TV (no cable, please -- but I do indulge in some of the TV series on DVD...like LOST...hehehe) so I don't really notice until it's like Christmas and I can't go to the grocery store.
hotgurl Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 k it looks like I am the exception but I love V day and I love all the other holidays and making a big deal out it. Maybe it just gives you an excuse to celebrate love and at Christmas you celebrate family and friends and life in gerneral. I get flowers delievered and there is a nice restaurant I've been wanting to go to. It has been so busy for us with the house and him working 50 hours or more a week. I t will be a good excuse to take a day to ourselves.
alphamale Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 v-day is another lame excuse for retailers to fill their ca$h registers....
slubberdegullion Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Self-love works wonders. Can I watch?
hooghie Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Years ago, I was dumped by a guy I was madly in love with on V-Day, but I wasn't a fan even before then. My ex H actually proposed to me on V-Day- that was a big turn off to me, but I said yes anyway. With my current BF- we have soooo many romantic nights that we don't need a day like VDAY to do something nice for eachother.
dgiirl Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 my exh was never a fan of v-day and always made the excuse about how commerical it was. I bought it hook line and sinker. Problem was, he never celebrated it OUTside of vday either. Last year, he came home on vday and asked for a divorce. When i asked him why he had to do that on vday, he said "I didnt realize it was vday, it was just another day to me" I made a promise to myself to always make vday a much better day than he's ever done! This year, will be my official divorce day and I've already bought myself some things for valentines day. Yah, it was at the dollar store, but it doesnt matter how much or little one spends, it's the thought that truely counts I've always wanted one of those silly stuffed animals and I got these plastic silly hearts with arms and legs lol They make me laugh so much! I LOVE MY FRICKEN SELF!!!! :love:
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