InDoubt Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Hello! A couple that I'm very close friends with introduced me to a good friend of theirs. He's 41, I'm 36. We hit it off immediately. I felt comfortable and close to him from the first few dates, he did too, and he shows his affection in front of his friends. A little after we started dating we slept together, (that was two days ago) which is quite unlike of me because it usually takes me a long time to get to trust someone before going to bed with them. We discussed all these things with this gyu before and after sex, he wanted to know how I was feeling. That night he was very warm and attentive to me after sex. The next morning he woke up, hugged me for a little while and then we had sex again. After he came, he sat up and kept staring at me with a blank look in his face. I caressed him and he didn't respond. I asked if he was OK and he just said I'm too bored to go to work. He was hardly talking as we were getting ready to leave his place for work. It was only when we said goodbye that he actually showed any care for me, asking me if I slept well. THis made me feel unwated and unwelcome. I was in someone else's space and felt like an intruder. I didn't know whether he was thinking of work or whether he was thinking "What is this woman doing in my bed!" Any opinions, guys? Thanks!
Groovy Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 OK, so you asked for a guys view but so far have no reply. I can tell you almost all gals have been in your shoes and it sucks, I agree. I think rushing in with a guy whether he be 20 or 50 is always a risky move. Sex for women is a real emotional thing and when we get reactions like that it can hurt. I can only say just leave the ball in his court. You didn't do anything to be ashamed of and it takes two to tango. If he wants to have sex and cast you off after that is his choice, and his loss as it happens to some of the smartest most attractive men out there. Hopefully he will come back to himself with you but if not just keep your head up!
barfool Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I don't think you have any need to worry now. It was only the first time that you guys have been sexually intimate. Give him some time to adjust, and you as well, to the new feelings that come with that.
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