Iamslowlygoingcrazy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I'm having a dilemma with my girlfriend. We have been together for over 2 years and have a very caring relationship. However, she has recently been eyeing someone else. A girl. She is a bit bisexual. She has admitted to being attracted to this other girl that she is somewhat close to. She wants to keep open communication of her feelings, but this still troubles me even though she asures me that she would never act on her attraction. I trust her, but it makes me a little uncomfortable. Her small attraction to girls has never been a problem to me untill now. Because now she is talking about someone she personally knows and is getting close to. Before now the fasination hasn't gone beyond a few stray comments and a little porn. I don't think it would be fare to ask her to stop seeing her friend, but she seems really sexually interested! She is really honest with me, so I think she would atleast tell me if she were seriously going to do something. Am I being too parinoid/jelous?
whichwayisup Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 You aren't being too paranoid or jealous. She is your girlfriend and has been for 2 years so you know her pretty well. I really hope she doesn't act upon it. The problem is, she is getting closer with this girl and even if it isn't sexual, she's developing feelings, emotional attachment to her and that's not good, it can open the door to other things. Not that she would cheat on you, but if that attraction is strong enough and if they spend time alone together it could be hard to say no. She shouldn't be putting herself in this situation. Talk to her. Let her know how this is upsetting you and that you're concerned about it.
mopar crazy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 You aren't being too paranoid or jealous. She is your girlfriend and has been for 2 years so you know her pretty well. I really hope she doesn't act upon it. The problem is, she is getting closer with this girl and even if it isn't sexual, she's developing feelings, emotional attachment to her and that's not good, it can open the door to other things. Not that she would cheat on you, but if that attraction is strong enough and if they spend time alone together it could be hard to say no. She shouldn't be putting herself in this situation. Talk to her. Let her know how this is upsetting you and that you're concerned about it. I agree. I'm not saying she will cheat on you either but you really need to talk to her, b4 it's too late. My H had an A w/ his co-worker whom he talked a lot about, spent a lot of time hanging out w/ her at work. If I would of known they were getting so close I would of told him either her friendship or our M, he can't have both. GL w/ this.
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