Chocolatellama Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 My ex and i went out for like 3 months, 2 years ago.. and we broke up and i was so heart broken.. The pain went away when i found a new guy but it was always there and i always wished it was him instead of this guy.. i never got over him.. Then a year later we got back together.. He told me that he had regretted his decision for the whole year and missed me so much and he used to say we'd never break up and stuff like that.. so anyway, 7 months later he breaks up with me and i'm scared that i'll never get over him. I've liked him since i was 13, loved him since i was 15 and now i'm almost 17. I really want to be friends with him again.. but i'm scared that seeing him will ruin everything. He said that he was going to get me a birthday present and throw me a party in april but i don't know if thats enough time. I don't know if i'll be ready. I feel that if i don't see him for a few months and then i see him.. it will be really hard.. Should i start seeing him every now and then and slowly build up the strength to be good friends again or just jump right in? Sorry if this doesn't make much sense..
notmakingsense Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 It sounds like you are a really smart person, and you know that seeing him any time soon will hurt you because you still want to be in a relationship with him. Think about why you would really want to be friends with him -- is it because you think that it might be a way to become bf/gf again? If so, this is totally the wrong thing to do. Be honest with yourself. Sometimes you just have to recognize that you can't be friends with a person you had feelings for -- and who rejected (broke up with) you. That's Ok. You aren't being selfish, you are just protecting yourself. You are so young. So many more great guys out there for you. If I were you, I would bite the bullet and go into strict no-contact with him for a very long time -- and definitely don't invite him to your birthday.
Author Chocolatellama Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 Maybe you're right. But he was my best friend and i don't know if i could handle losing him completely. Maybe i have to though.. Maybe i just have to let go and not be friends with him. My birthday party was supposed to be at his house becasue he throws alot of parties and has alot of room. I got him a really big christmas present and hes buying me a big birthday one because he feels bad or something. Or maybe i should just wait until i'm ready and find somewhere else to have my birthday. I'll be honest.. i've always thought that when i saw him at my birthday he might change his mind and take me back. I know its not going to happen
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