uongy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 hey there people.im feeling really low at the moment.can you help me out? ok here is the situation.there is a friend who i met in the first weeks of university and i started liking her.this is significant on two fronts,one im very picky and two i was determined to just have fun and not get tied down by anything. there were occasions where we kissed and there seemed to be potential.but there always seemed to be a problem.i thought it might have been my approach but i realised it was her. she just isnt ready for that kind of thing yet or at least what i want.i was being told tht she did like me but getting a straight answer from her was like getting blood from a stone. anyway i decided she wasnt really worth me fussing over and i think we are better off as friends.its all cool on this front. my problem is the fact that im very picky and loads of girls just dont do it for me.in fact,since is started uni,this girl has been the one that i would even remotely consider as relationship material as she really wasnt in the end. sounds silly but im seriously doubting any sort of relationship while im at uni.even if i dont find the girl of my dreams,i want relationships and experience,of which i have had neither so far. i know tht most people will say just get out there and meet people but things like bars and clubs really dont appeal to me due to the noise factor.i must rather go to quiet locations,maybe a pub etc. anyway some thoughts would be welcome. __________________ uongy.
bluechocolate Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 my problem is the fact that im very picky and loads of girls just dont do it for me.in fact,since I started uni,this girl has been the one that i would even remotely consider as relationship material as she really wasnt in the end. In which case your 'pickiness' (which I couldn't fail to notice you've mentioned twice) doesn't always work for you. I don't know what this pickiness is (though I suspect it's mainly physical). Maybe if you lowered your 'standards' somewhat you might find yourself pleasantly surprised? That doesn't mean settling for less, just trying to see the potential in all the types of women you meet.
Author uongy Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 im picky in the fact that many personality types just do no match with me and its has nothing to do with the physical.the girl i like can be called fat.and i realy dont like the stereotypical thin girl aka paris hilton style.they really turn me off.
Hollybsoaddictive Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Actually... In some cases you find love when your least expecting it (yeah yeah yeah). When she says "She isnt ready for this kind of thing." It MEANS shes not ready for this kind of thing, with you. So heres a question..What personality traits..turn u off? Dont engulf yourself with finding love.. Itll come around when it wants to.
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