tc1985 Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Hi all Me and my GF met online about 2 years ago and met up in person about 18 months ago. Im 21 and shes 19. We are about a 5 hour train journey from eachother. I love her to bits and she says she feels the same way so i have no reason to think otherwise! We have a great time when were together but things have been getting a little bit boring (and frustrating) when were apart. I have recently been going to see her every other weekend at her house. With her parents always around obviously its hard to do anything sexual, which i understand. Because of her part time job she cant get up here that often but she does every 3 months or so and we always have great sex. Because we spend almost all the time apart, i feel that there still has to be some sexual aspect to the relationship to keep it alive. Because her PC is downstairs we cant really do anything over webcam and she is nervous about talking about sex stuff over MSN incase somebody sees (though we used to...). Even exchanging sexy text messages doesnt happen and its getting to me because im not sure what the problem is, or if there is one. At the start of our relationship we used to have fun over msn, text and sending eachother pictures and it was great...but im clueless as to why it doesnt happen anymore....Ive asked her about it and she says either 'yea we should do it more' or 'i dont know, im sorry' which doesnt relaly help. Im not sure whether making a bigger deal is just making unnecessary problems and i dont want her just to do it because im making it an issue i.e. feeling as if she has to if the feeling isnt there...would appreciate anyones views on this...thanks
lexilas Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Why don't the two of you meet halfway sometime (say once a month) and stay overnight in a cozy/romantic hotel.
magda Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 You mention MSN and text messaging, but do you talk on the phone a lot as well? Maybe she would be more into it if it was away from the computer and from typing.
RubixCube28 Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 Well sounds like she still lives at home with her parents.. So that's prob why shes not so into doing sex related stuff in the house.. Or the genral area of..Other wise I'de suggest the phone fun thing..It can be great in a ldr situation if done right.. But I think shes just nervous about that kinda stuff at home.. Maybe her parents don't even realise you guys are sexualy active.. I think if you can what the other poaster said is a great idea.. Spend some time on netural ground if her parentes will allow that.. You guys are at a hard age your not kids any more.. But some times parents don't wanna let you grow up fully eather.. You should never feel like you shouldent talk to eachother about stuff..That's bothering you its not "makeing a big deal" About it it's called good comunication and its the foundation.. For any good long lasting relashionship.. Hope it all works out for you guys..
RubixCube28 Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 Sorry for the double post but I just got a idea YUREEKA LoL.. She could maybe get herself a laptop for her room..With a cam and mic if that's a decent idea to you guys.. You can get one off Ebay pretty afordable I got one for like 200 bucks there.. Okies that's all now I'm sure LoL..
tlynn Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I've been in a LDR for a year, and Im so not satisfied. He spends alot of time looking for pics of women he finds sexy on line, which makes me feel like crap. What about that don't guys get? If I spent hours looking for guys with big dicks, he'd be ape****. WTF Cybersex, phone sex, text sex ... great for casual sex in a pinch, I guess but for a serious relationship , it just doesn't cut it anymore.
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