noclobber Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 hey guys, this is funny but i think i am gonna ask out this girl that works in Jamba Juice i work in SFO and visit Jamba Juice often to get a drink during lunch. there is one girl that works there that has caught my eye. her personality seems to mesh with mine - always smiling, cheerful, and full of energy. she noticed that i was visiting there regularly and just 2 weeks back as soon as i entered the place she said "Hi <my name>".. she literally shouted 'cos i cud hear it from the doorstep itself. she then had a small talk with me and i also noticed her telling something about me to her colleague. then when i departed she again shouted "Bye <my name>". i just brushed it aside as a one time incident but when i went there again she did the exact same thing. and now its happening every time i go there. now i know that its just not possible to really tell that she is interested in getting to know me or not . i was just planning to say "hey would you like to meet for coffee after work?". but i have no idea how she will react. what do you guys think? 1
loony Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I think you should flirt with her a bit first, so she will get used to you, then you can ask her. Make it sound light like, "Judging from the way you always shout my name I think you must like me a lot. Care to meet me today after work and have a coffee together?"
Walk Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Hey Clobsie, It would depend on the girl, but the flirting would turn me off it wasn't really subtle. I'd just ask. Nothing ventured, nothing gained... I just want to say, if she says no, or seems hesitant, then back off for a while. But ask again later. Unless she says she has a boyfriend, or is rude about it. This is just my opinion, but some girls need to interact more with a guy prior to putting themselves in a position of being alone with them. It depends on her reaction though. But, If she's smart she'll say yes in a heart beat!!!!
Author noclobber Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 Hey Clobsie, It would depend on the girl, but the flirting would turn me off it wasn't really subtle. I'd just ask. Nothing ventured, nothing gained... I just want to say, if she says no, or seems hesitant, then back off for a while. But ask again later. Unless she says she has a boyfriend, or is rude about it. This is just my opinion, but some girls need to interact more with a guy prior to putting themselves in a position of being alone with them. It depends on her reaction though. But, If she's smart she'll say yes in a heart beat!!!! Walk, OMG it is sooooooooooo nice to from you How have you been? I hope everything is alrite with you now. Keep me posted. Thanks for your suggestion. Like how loony said i may want to do something before asking her out. I think I am going to throw a compliment and see how she takes it. I guess that would be a good indication. If she reacts well then I will take it from there
Author noclobber Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 ok guys i dunno why i did this but it turned out to be good.... i did a google search on this girl... i put her name and the words jamba juice ... the search engine set its algorithms in motion and returned back her profile from three websites. one was from http://www.myspace.com and it had all the details about her. now here is the surprise, she is only 20 years old but she is married!!!!!!! thank god i didn't make a fool of myself by asking out this girl... that wud have been a big embarassment... i have no idea how she would have reacted if i had asked her out for coffee
Ms_Sweetness Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Wow!! The internet is a wonderful thing. Good thing you did find that info. Hopefully if asked, she would have admitted to being married.
Walk Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 thank god i didn't make a fool of myself by asking out this girl... that wud have been a big embarassment... i have no idea how she would have reacted if i had asked her out for coffee Hey... there's no reason (if you had asked her out) for you to have been embarressed. You would've given that girl the greatest compliment. A smart, attractive man with a great career and frickin' awesome personality was interested in a counter girl. If I'd been her, it would've been the highlight of my week. Even if I would've had to say no. And I would really feel bad if I knew a man I had to turn down due to marriage, or a relationship, felt embarressed or hurt by me. I wouldn't want him to feel that way... especially since it wasn't anything about him, or who he is. I'm just trying to give a different perspective on the situation, and possibly you won't hold this experience as something that could've gone bad and therefore luckily avoided. But more as something that, although wouldn't have gone as you would've liked, still would've been incredibly flattering to this girl. And the outcome would have had nothing to do with who you are as a person. (I think this is pretty true of all attempts to ask someone out.. it's not because you're wrong or messed up, but because that person has reasons in her/his own life that really have nothing really to do with who you are.)
Art_Critic Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 now here is the surprise, she is only 20 years old but she is married!!!!!!! that is why trying to date a service/waitress person is not a good idea.. they are just being nice to you.. either being professional or doing to get good tips.. she was just being nice..
alphamale Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 . i was just planning to say "hey would you like to meet for coffee after work?". look NOCLOBBER...this woman spends 8+ hours per day working in a well-known retail juice outlet. WTF man! Why in god's name would you take her to a coffee place for a date. If you recommend that venue then youll get shot down for sure!
Lishy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 CLOBSYYYYYY ........... Lucky u googled her honey - You wouldda been a juicless man for a while eh!!! If you ever want to ask a girl out who is flirting with you then your best bet is to simply say (in a nonchalent way) "So when are you going to let me take you out?" That way it is light eharted and not so bad if you get a refusal. If a guy approached me like that and I was interested I would say "When you ask me!" and if I wasnt I would say "Oh that would be lovely, but I am married with 900 kids" Keep it up Clobsy baby and keep those flirting shoes on!!!!!!!! SHe is out there just waiting for you! :)
slubberdegullion Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Clobber, hold on a quick second. Anyone can put anything they want on a site like myspace or similar. It's very possible - maybe even likely - that she actually isn't married but put that info on there to keep the hounds at bay. Obviously you didn't notice if she had a ring on. That by itself doesn't mean that much, because some people just don't wear them. I'd still do the flirt thing, but there's another idea you may wish to try. Asking her out in her work environment probably isn't the best thing. After all, she is working. But if you can catch her as she's either going to work or leaving, that might make more sense. Good luck!
Author noclobber Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 Thanks a lot for the responses guys Art_Critic, i get your point but i noticed her behavior for a while and only then i came to a conclusion that she may be interested. she doesn't call out anyone else like that. Walk, yup that might have been a compliment for her but nevertheless i guess there wud have been slight embarassment.. its nobody's fault but i can't imagine asking out a married woman hahaha she looked really young and she is only 20 years old. but the truth is she is married! Lishy baby, my flirting shoes are always on i will probably save my 'juices' for some one else Slubber, you made a good point but this girl is seen with her husband in the profile. looks like she got married only last year.. whatever.. i will let this one go! Long live Google!
CaliGuy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I have nothing to add other than I love Jamba Juice
Author noclobber Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 I have nothing to add other than I love Jamba Juice haha.. that was funny!
Neptune Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 It`s been a long time since I have been blindsided by becoming interested in a woman and then finding out she`s married. That is the first thing that comes to mind upon seeing a woman in a situation like you describe noclobber. And it should, from this moment on be the first thing that comes to your mind too. First, always be on the lookout for "The Ring" If there is no ring then, at some point before you ask her out, you must be clear on that from whatever source available. Even if it means asking directly. I just think it is really embarassing for a guy, even if the woman is thrilled, to get caught in that situation. And what is worse, there is a possibility that you could ask her and she would say yes. Then you are smoozing a married gal , unknown to you, that is probably wacko and fixing to get you into deep kempche. It is strange how some gals can be real friendly. It seems they really have a thing for you. But, being married makes it easy to be friendly and open with guys, especially in that line of work. Even if she wasn`t married, she could have just as easily been living with some dude too. So, step one find out what her dating status is.
Author noclobber Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 It`s been a long time since I have been blindsided by becoming interested in a woman and then finding out she`s married. That is the first thing that comes to mind upon seeing a woman in a situation like you describe noclobber. And it should, from this moment on be the first thing that comes to your mind too. First, always be on the lookout for "The Ring" If there is no ring then, at some point before you ask her out, you must be clear on that from whatever source available. Even if it means asking directly. I just think it is really embarassing for a guy, even if the woman is thrilled, to get caught in that situation. And what is worse, there is a possibility that you could ask her and she would say yes. Then you are smoozing a married gal , unknown to you, that is probably wacko and fixing to get you into deep kempche. It is strange how some gals can be real friendly. It seems they really have a thing for you. But, being married makes it easy to be friendly and open with guys, especially in that line of work. Even if she wasn`t married, she could have just as easily been living with some dude too. So, step one find out what her dating status is. hi neptune, i had no idea that this girl might be married b'cos of two things: 1) she doesn't have a ring on her hand 2) she is very very young (20 yrs) that's why when i saw her posing with her husband in her profile i was intensely surprised. but this is no big deal... its not like i developed feelings for her and am now crushed... its just that i thought i can ask her out b'cos i got some vibes and now i won't 'cos she is a married lass.. i am sure i will find someone else that will make my juices flowing
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