TheSwordfish Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 First post here I really need some advise. I'm a teacher and I met this girl I like a lot(well she's a teacher as well). Everything seemed to go extremely well, all the body language signs were thrown at me and even the kids noticed this (well they are 16 years old so they know what they are talking about). I asked her MSN address and added her (well I didn’t want to look desperate so i waited two days!). We had nice conversations at first. I was planning to ask her out , but I took my time and wanted to look quite busy (well I actually am!). She's not working at my school anymore so I don't bump into her in real life. Here comes the annoying part. According to the kids, other teachers and myself she was obviously interested. Five weeks have past though and when I try to talk to her on MSN she doesn't say anything. I mean she didn't block me, she still has me in her friends list, she appears being online but she doesn't say a thing! Even when I start the conversation I don't get a reply. Great timing on her part.... I just found the courage to actually ask her out! I reckon this is her way of letting me know she's not interested. Even though I find it hard to believe someone wouldn't talk to me at all (even people that I'm not close to have the decency to respond when I say hi on MSN!) and some friends think its MSN acting weird, I have decided to give up on her. A female friend of mine thinks she’s playing hard to get but i don’t think this is a nice way to do that. To make it even more annoying, each time I get online, her status goes from away to available. We did an experiment, me blocking her, waiting for her to go on away, and when I come back online she suddenly is available again. I say hello... but no reply.... I regret the fact that I didn’t ask her out earlier on (or I should have asked for her phone number instead of MSN). I can almost kick myself for playing my own subtle hard to get games (they usually work quite well on pretty girls). I'm actually thinking of sending her a nice E-mail with some funny things and questions in it (I'm not going for that old, well I know its too late but I like you a lot routine, that might make matters worse, but just a nice friendly E-mail). The fact that I have two other pretty girls that asked me out during the last week makes it a little easier for me but I was actually daydreaming about this girl during the last couple of weeks. I'm wondering what I should do. Should I just back out and take it as a clear signal. Should I keep on saying hi on MSN (well I don't like that option, she doesn't respond anyway and its frustrating). Or should I send her that E-mail? Or do you guys have another idea? I like to know what girls think about this (they know how the female brain workd ) Thanks in Advance, Greetings, The Swordfish
bluetuesday Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 good lord, mr fish, and they let you teach in a school!! send her the email already! MSN is all over the place. i suffer notoriously dodgy connections all the time. this woman comes back from being away when you appear. how much of a green light do you need? she is probably not getting your 'hi' and wondering why you won't talk to her even when you're getting such a strong signal from her (her availability) to proceed. go for it man! do it NOW.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 That is exactly what I'm hoping but you never know for sure. I'm going to send her an E-mail today. I was kind of hoping if the girls here could tell me why someone would keep you in a friends list and not block you but just say nothing.... Could also be the fact that she likes my looks (I have this annying boyish charm thing over me that seems to work quite well) but thinks that we don't fit together that well after all (I like her, but her life is totally different then mine, she's an atlete, sporting all the time, I'm a party animal, only doing fitness to stay in shape).
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 23, 2006 Author Posted January 23, 2006 Suddenly got me thinking. Wasn't life much more fun without messengers?
gfto Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 I doubt very seriously that this is an MSN issue. If she wanted to talk to you, she could easily right click on your screen name and send you a quick e-mail. I'd forget about this girl and set up dates with those other two ladies that asked you out. If you do send an e-mail, I'd keep it one sentence long: "Would you like to meet at Starbucks for coffee Sunday afternoon?" Then, let it go.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Well I kind of agree. I don't think its just MSN either. I haven't sent an E-mail yet. But then again this is the same girl that came to my class on her own request, looking great, and doing things like licking her lips while gazing into my eyes, pasting her fist name to my last name and so on. That is what makes it so silly. I thought it was a safe bet and it would be just a matter of time. Almost expected her to ask me out (well girls here tend to ask me out more often then me asking them out ). Maybe I've been taking way to much time. So its my own fault. Still I wonder why not just block me and take me from her friends list? Well I can laugh about it. I like to pretend she's either playing hard to get or just to shy because I'm so incredibly sexy (this is me me being cynical! ). Well, I'm going to wait a while longer before sending that E-mail. Well maybe she maried a camel farmer without me knowing it.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Well adding two things here. Well after some female advise on my appaling stragies I got a few insights that make me laugh even more. Because I took thinsg so slowly without letting her know to much I probably made her think I'm not that interested. I wasn't on MSN for about two weeks before all this, because I just didnt have time). Seems like a good explanation thats saves me from feeling like a complete retard. The other thing I'de like to add for you guys to laugh about, is a horrible action of one of my students. I was chatting with this nice girl (teacher) and this student from my class wanted to set us up, but when she asked him why we would make such a great couple, he suddenly began talking about me and the girl I was talking about in the posts above ..... There goes my image as mister nice guy, lol
filarena Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 If you need the piece of mind, send the email, but personally I'm not sure how interested I'D be in a grown woman who ignored im's repeatedly to test my interest level. I'm aware that lots of girls play the game this way and some times I thought I was being blown off I was just being tested, but I always figured if you're going to try more than just a little to make me think I'm wasting my time, then okay, I would be wasting my time.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 True, true, though I kind of like playing mind games myself. Reminds me of a girl that played hard to get, and just when I wanted to give up she came out with her confessions. I was so frustrated by that back then. Well, if she's playing I will find out sooner or later.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 Anyone out there any other ideas?
loony Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Man, I wonder why I ever had so much respect for teachers and other adults... Growing up is such a disappointment. Get her phone number from someone who knows her and ask her out. You are a teacher and a rolemodel (theoretically at least ), so show some courage, please.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 LMAo I'm sucha bad role model. Wonder how those kids I'm teaching will end up
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 Well i'm really a bad rolemodel. Usually I just figure out where a girl goes out on saturdaynight, Then I just go there and act surprised... hey! (the act is so silly but it works ) And then its not that hard to make a follow up date. But this girl hardly goes out
933KJL Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Dude--grow some balls and call her. Keep your lovelife out of my kid's classroom. Do not use my kids to pimp you and hook you up. Like it or not you are considered a role model and a sefl admitted bad one. How old are you? I mean come on, teachers flirting in class...licking lips, putting her first name with your last name? Did the 16 yr olds begin to sing Mr. And Miss sitting in a tree?
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 HAHAHA, they actually did sing that song Well, it wasn't like we were standing there drooling or something, lol. You know what it is, the kids are in puberty and so they are really bussy with things like that. Sometimes they ask me advice, but my answer is that I don't have a clue in most cases. for being a role model, I'm suite an honest teacher, I am not pushing thse kids to set me up or anything. I think that part of being a good teacher is having fun and being human in some situations. I take my job really seriously and its of course not during lessons that I'm busy with things like this.
l2hvn Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 sent her a short email, asking if she wants to meet up for coffee sometime. that's it. if she still doesn't respond, well there goes your answer. playing games is so HS. leave that to your students.
Author TheSwordfish Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 Thats true. But then again, being playfull isn't a bad thing.
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