RZA-Man Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Two months ago I got dumped. I've been in NC mode for about 3 weeks and I feel better. It hurts that the ex hasn't tried to contact me in any way, shape or form, but I suppose that's for the best. There's still a weird feeling in my stomach and there are times during the day when I wish we were still together. However, I know that it's really not in my best interest to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. It's important to have pride and not pine for someone, especially someone who discarded me in a callous manner. I vividly remember the pain I was in the night I got dumped and I'm amazed that 2 months later the pain had subsided. There's still a lot more healing to do and part of me hopes she'll come back, but I'm not putting my life on hold for one person. Moving on sucks but it gets easier
fooled Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Very encouraging! It's been 2 weeks since my split & NC. I still seize up when I come across something I associate with her or our time together. That list seems endliess. I'm trying desperately to work through that. A buddy of mine came over for dinner last night. The things we couldn't watch on TV because of my associations was astounding. Can't wait for that to end.
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Moving on sucks but it gets easier You sound like your doing fine.. take it all in stride as you are healing and doing a good job of it I might add.
Chocolatellama Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 This no contact thing is killing me. It makes me feel like he doesn't even care what hes done to me. Actually.. i know he doesn't care. Everytime i see that i have an email somewhere inside me hopes that its from him, apologizing for everything. I plan on being friends with him at a later time but i'm scared that when i see him everything will come back..
notmakingsense Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I'm right there with all of you guys..... about 2 months since the breakup and about 1 month of NC. In the beginning, there were no moments where I wasn't thinking about her. Now there are. It is still extremely rough, and I have major down moments -- but I can now see that eventually things will get better. I'm still holing up at home and avoiding all chances to run in to her. I have a lot more healing to do before I'll be able to handle seeing her or find out what she's been up to by accident. Like Chocolate, the roughest moments I have are when I think about her utter lack of compassion and interest in apologizing for how she treated me at the end. Oh well, it will get better -- and I hope that when I do run in to her (it will eventually happen -- I'm in a small town), that I'll be looking extremely hot and feeling happy!
coasting Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 All Right Guys, it has been two months since I was dumped. I had to deal with his mother dying and attending the wake and funeral, as well as work in the same place as my ex and the female he moved in with.(my story is in the other man/woman forim under the heading of I wouldn't wish this pain any anyone, not even them) i have maintained the NC thing and have forced myself to make him see that I can do this without him. I have gone on to go tanning, and wearing make up and just doing things that boost my self esteem. He sees me looking great and moving on , on my own and I see the look in his eyes and the torture he is going through seeing me this way. So, I have to say I agree with chocolate in saying "the best revenge is dooing great" Even though it is hard let them see that you have self esteem and you think more of yourself then they did, and let them sit back and feel some of the pain!
Author RZA-Man Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 Thanks for sharing guys, it's nice to know I'm not in this alone Sometimes I wish she'd just call me to see how I was doing. I know that would probably set me back and all that stuff, but it sucks having this feeling of total abandonment. It's like the relationship meant nothing to her. Oh well, I just have to suck it up and look for another lady . . .
coasting Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Just make sure you are ready for that. I say that also, but in reality I know if I were to find someone else at this time, it wouldn't be fair to me or that person. Start off by doing things with friends, then move up..You never know the right woman or man may be right there in front of you and you don't even know it. I myself can not think about finding someone else right now, because of the pain I have inside and knowing that if I am with someone else, I would only be thinking of the time i spent with the ex. To be honest this is the worse pain I have ever felt and I was doing so well with my self esteem and then I seen the two of them walking today, and I fell back those steps. It wouldn't be so bad if he didn't walk through the Emergency Room after with the look of sorrow on his face, because we all know he is not the one feeling the pain. So please think before you leap. Don't allow someone to go through the pain that you are going through now!
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