consumed Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I bought my ex girlfriend a silver necklace for x-mas and her febuary birthday but I'm wondering if that's enough or should I get something to go on the necklace? I'm sending it tomorrow. My girlfriend broke things off in Nov but we still talk here and there online. When we talk she tell's me her feelings for me, and I still feel the same for her. My other posts explain more on the breakup.
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I don't mean to sound harsh but you should never have given her the necklace We don't give presents to women that have become our ex's. A silver necklace is stepping over the line on gift giving for an ex.. You will feel hurt when she doesn't come back to you and she will be like wtf ? just my 2 cents..
bluetuesday Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 i haven't read your other posts. but if she's an ex, she's an ex. stop buying her stuff. 'cause you'll be crushed when she doesn't want to get back with you. move on.
Author consumed Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 It's been 3 months and in no way am I over her. Most days when the memories flood my mind, I don't think I want to get over my feelings for her. When we talk here and there online she still tell's me her feelings for me, she still tells' me she love's me. Will we ever get back together? I don't know, nobody knows. It would be a long long time from now anyways as she has to get things in her life sorted out which is why she told me to go back to my city. I dated someone briefly last month but I kept thinking how they didn't have some of the qualities of my ex. Yeh, in someways the other girl was better but through out seeing this other girl briefly I kept thinking about my ex. I have dreams about my ex almost everynight.
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 It's been 3 months and in no way am I over her. Most days when the memories flood my mind, I don't think I want to get over my feelings for her. When we talk here and there online she still tell's me her feelings for me, she still tells' me she love's me. Will we ever get back together? I don't know, nobody knows. It would be a long long time from now anyways as she has to get things in her life sorted out which is why she told me to go back to my city. I dated someone briefly last month but I kept thinking how they didn't have some of the qualities of my ex. Yeh, in someways the other girl was better but through out seeing this other girl briefly I kept thinking about my ex. I have dreams about my ex almost everynight. All the more reason to not buy her anything
blah1234 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Man, I have seen some ugly things happen when friends of mine try to give their exes a gift (especially if it's a nice one). Usually it happens because a guy thinks he can win a girl back by giving her some extremely thoughtful/romantic gift. However, the girl usually ends up not accepting the gift, which hurts the guy. Or she accepts it but never uses it (which hurts the guy) and in either scenerio, the girl never gets back with the guy (which hurts him even more). Never a good idea to give an ex a gift.
Shattered Heart Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Thanks for the advice. I was wondering this myself, because I'm in a similar situation with "consumed", with my girlfriend breaking up with me three months ago and with her birthday coming up next week. We both gifted each other for Christmas, but I was thinking that the gift-giving should stop there and that I shouldn't gift her for her birthday. Not to mention, she's spending her birthday driving from NY (where we both live now) to CA where she'll be living permanently with her new boyfriend. So, all the signs tell me not to gift her anymore.
pippen_2k Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Man jewlery is a gift you buy someone your dating..... She's gonna feel totally uncomfortable getting this gift, and dont be surprised if she dosent accept it. Your crossing the line here. You shouldnt even be considering buying this chick a present.
WindDrifter Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 EX means PAST! NO LONGER! ENDED! She is now officially a STRANGER! Unless you are really good friends and everything was amicable then maybe but for anyone here that isn't really the case. All you will do by giving a gift is by slapping yourself and your dignity across the face for HER!!! Don't be stupid. Suck it up! Spend it on BEER!!! (By no ways am I condoning alcholism) But it has helped me in the past! Cheers, WD
Kengne Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 It's been 3 months and in no way am I over her. Most days when the memories flood my mind, I don't think I want to get over my feelings for her. When we talk here and there online she still tell's me her feelings for me, she still tells' me she love's me. Will we ever get back together? I don't know, nobody knows. It would be a long long time from now anyways as she has to get things in her life sorted out which is why she told me to go back to my city. I dated someone briefly last month but I kept thinking how they didn't have some of the qualities of my ex. Yeh, in someways the other girl was better but through out seeing this other girl briefly I kept thinking about my ex. I have dreams about my ex almost everynight. She needs to stop telling you this. Because the way you seem to be reading it it is "she loves me therefore she's still IN LOVE with me" when it may just be "she cares about you alot and HAS love for you". This is a very important distinction. By her continuing to show you her "feelings" I think you are still hanging on to hope that you WILL get back together. Which is fine - but what is NOT fine is buying her JEWELRY That's a big no no. My ex-bf tried to give me an engagement ring mths after we broke up, and I was with someone else. I told him to keep the ring. Please... if you MUST get her smth... get her smth small... eg. a gift certificate, a card. But not jewelry - cased closed. You can't buy back her love. K.
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