Hollybsoaddictive Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 To them hes my ex boyfriend that cheated on me and is a complete jerk for doing so.... To me... hes the love of my life that I cannot see myself without... Well, we recently got "back" together after an unbearable few months apart... after i was finished with being angry about it.. i forgave him.. Now we are closer than ever... Im 21 and I still live at home with my parents ( I have it made!!!) but Im finding it very hard to tell them that we are together again... How do I approach them and how do I help them to understand that we do honestly love eachother... Im afraid theyll be angry with me and will make tension at home... HELP! Any advice is appreciated! Thank You! Holly
whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Until you two really are 100% back on the mend for a while, don't tell your parents. How long have you guys been back together? Also, how long were you two a couple before he cheated on you?
Author Hollybsoaddictive Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 We were together for almost a year b4 it happened and weve been back together for 3 months...
luckygirl Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Sounds like a problem. I do not know what to say. Considering I have a jealous problem remembering my boyfriend being affectionate with his ex-wife and a major problem imagining him sexually with his ex-wife, I do not think I could take someone back after cheating on me. I am assuming your boyfriend had sex with someone else. Sex is something that is intimate and I do not think that it should be shared with just anyone. It is a special bond between two people. Some do not take sex so personal. I could not look at my boyfriend knowing that I must not have been good enough to satisfy him. If he has to go to someone else, he can just not have me. I could not let him touch me knowing he has touched another female in an intimate way. Regardless of what he did, he did it with someone else. I read a book and I do not know if I can solicit it, but it would have been very beneficial for you to read before you made your decision to take him back. I admire you for being able to work things out and I hope everything is going well for you. I agree that you should not tell your parents until you are together for awhile. You are old enough to make your own decisions, but they could try to control whether you see him or not. Possibly by trying to kick you out. If they were understanding parents, they would allow you to make your own mistakes and support you no matter what you decision.
quankanne Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 I agree that you should not tell your parents until you are together for awhile. You are old enough to make your own decisions, but they could try to control whether you see him or not. Possibly by trying to kick you out. If they were understanding parents, they would allow you to make your own mistakes and support you no matter what you decision. my thought is that your folks are going to look to you and respond to that; if you tell them that you and he are going to try to work things out slowly, and if you act in an adult manner, it's not going to bug them as much as if you have been a drama queen throughout the whole matter. Parents do their best to encourage their children to fly of their own accord, but it doesn't mean they're going to leave you vulnerable, even if you're 50-something years old. You're still their child, they still worry about you. Be responsible in your actions and they'll see that even while they may not like you two being back together (if this is the case), you're going about it with a level head. in my personal experience, it hurts them worse to see you cry over a relationship that's going through a rough patch, and it makes it all that much harder to be fair to your partner, knowing that he's caused you hurt. My mom finally had to tell me that I shouldn't tell her certain things about my marriage because it made it that much harder to have an open mind about my husband, because she wanted to love him for him ...
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