Wing Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Ok, here is my story. I met my bf 2 mos ago. about a week ago. I talked about him to one of my female friend (gf), and saying i am not sure if my bf is serious about our relationship. and my gf asked me his msn address, said she would chat to him as a stranger and see what happens. I did not feel comfortable to do that. but she persued to at the end. so, Next day, I was chating to my bf on msn, and my gf is chating to him at the same time on msn. (he doesnt know that was my gf). he was saying things like he likes me so much. and he is so proud to be my bf (we just became bf and gf few days before this covnersation on msn) and on the side, my gf told me he was telling he is single doesnt have a gf, and not seeing anyone, and asking my gf number and ask her out the next day. i was very dispointed and hurt.so i went offline. at the end he knew that was my gf, and he explained to me on the phone that. he thought it was me useing two different msn name mucking around with him, so he was just joking, also as he asked my gf's number and she did not tell him her number, made him even more sure about that was me mucking around with him. and he promise me that he already have me he would not see anyone else. yet last night, he smsed me "I like you so much, you have no idea how much i want to spend every waking moment with you" and we plan to meet up today, but he canceled it this monring said his dad is sick, he has to stay home. and about an hour ago I send him a sms no reply, half an hour later i called him on mobile, no answer. A little backgound info: we are both university student. before we were bf and gf i have made it clear, i would not sleep with anyone till i am committed,which maybe marriage or engagemnt. he was happy about that and still want to be me bf. (that make me think he is a decent guy) I dont know if I should believe him whatever he said. if he really thought it was me and joking around, or he was actually flirting with my gf and asking her for a date. i dont know what should i think. please give me some opinions.
Deirdre Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 well in fact you sorta dig problems for yourself with your uncertainty. you guys dont really know each other that long yet, besides its hard to say if hes telling the truth or not...(sometimes time will tell) meanwhile instead of suspecting everything just enjoy the courtship....has he done something that caused you to be suspicious? (if im your boyfriend i will be personally pissed at this msn-digging thing but that is another story) anyways, im not neccessary saying your boyfriend is a great guy.....we simply do not know that yet, and as for his dad being sick and him not replying....well if hes actually busy its tough to expect replies immediately. (its strange why girls often take lack of sms replies as nnot loving you enough; its not always reasonable to expect speedy replies unless he is a person with too much time on his hands.) on the other hand, he might not be telling the truth but at this point why cant you just take his word for it? if you're gonna doubt his every single word as "true or false" you'll be giving yourself alot of unneccesary headache.
Author Wing Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 Thanks Deirdre, This is my first relationship., a lot of things to learn. all new for me, I will try my best to be a good gf Thanks for your opinion.
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