Ruby Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 I need some advice I feel like I am cracking up. I had a casual sex affair going until a few months ago and I saw him last night for the first time in ages. It has knocked me off of my feet. I am sitting here plotting ways to bump into him again and I feel so awful today. He spoke to me last night and was very polite, asking me how I was and what I have been doing. He seemed to show an interest in me and I was fine last night it is just today I am struggling so badly. I miss him. I just made an excuse to bump into him in the street but he did not see me so it was a waste of time and it has made me feel silly and so depressed that a lady of my age with children is acting so pathetic. Has anyone else here done something so immature or am I the only one? How do I deal with this? Calling him is not an option as he stopped taking my calls and that is why it ended.
Lishy Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Firstly you are NOT immature. This is something you are feeling and as the days go on it will get less and less. Try not to contact him and do not beat yourself up for plotting. You are not the first and you will not be the last to have those feelings.
In Sync Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I need some advice I feel like I am cracking up. I had a casual sex affair going until a few months ago and I saw him last night for the first time in ages. It has knocked me off of my feet. I am sitting here plotting ways to bump into him again and I feel so awful today. He spoke to me last night and was very polite, asking me how I was and what I have been doing. He seemed to show an interest in me and I was fine last night it is just today I am struggling so badly. I miss him. I just made an excuse to bump into him in the street but he did not see me so it was a waste of time and it has made me feel silly and so depressed that a lady of my age with children is acting so pathetic. Has anyone else here done something so immature or am I the only one? How do I deal with this? Calling him is not an option as he stopped taking my calls and that is why it ended. Age has nothing to do with your feelinings, so there is no reason for you to regard yourself for desiring a man regardless of whether you have children or not as being silly. But I will be blunt...STOP THE PLOTTING. This is only going to cause you grief and humiliation. If he's already stopped taking your calls that's a Reg Flag that's saying...enough! Continue plotting to show up where he is at will be transparent and all too obvious...he will get it if he hasn't already. Then he will cease being polite. Let this affair go. It's now all in your head. For him it's over. Don't escalate trying to see him because this lead you down the road of embarassment. Is he worth feeling this way. He's won't find it cute. Or flattering. You want to stop yourself, put this thought in your mind. I will not ever do anything that will make this man see me as pathetic. I am much better than that. 1
fatcat Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 I agree with the other posts. Dont call or plot to get him back. "casual sex affair" you say? well, that's a pretty shallow relationship enough to try to get someone back, hahahahah! Move on and start doing the nasty with someone else.
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